Here’s a composite email, representing a kind of question that the office gets frequently–and which generally gets passed on to me.

Dear Dr. Bauer,

My high school junior is applying to colleges. He’s a strong reader and an excellent writer, and he’d like to study literature or possibly philosophy at a good school.

Could you help me identify some universities that aren’t completely dominated by liberal faculty and their agendas? We would like him to be in a department that emphasizes reading and writing and discussion but that doesn’t take a politically correct/feminist/postmodernist approach.

We are heartened to see that you are teaching at William & Mary. Would that be a good place for him to apply? Thank you for any help you can offer.

Sincerely,

Worried Parent

I dread these emails, because I can’t really answer the question that’s being asked.

I should say right off that I’m sympathetic to the underlying concern, which is: I don’t want to send my child off to a place where he will be mocked and made fun of for beliefs which may be out of step with those of the majority of his classmates. I’m getting ready to pack my oldest off to college this fall. I too have parental worries.

But this particular way of expressing that concern has three major problems with it that I’d like to point out.

1. Failure to understand the nature of academic departments.

Academic departments, particularly in the humanities, are hardly ever homogeneous. (I’m talking here about medium to large departments at secular, or for-all-practical-purposes secular, schools; the most homogeneous departments around are those at smaller religious schools that require adherence to a confession or creed, but those aren’t generally the schools I’m being asked about.)

Your typical good-sized department will probably contain one or two observant Catholics, two or three observant Episcopalians, a handful of nominal Presbyterians and Baptists who are for all practical purposes secularists, a couple of militant left-wingers out to make converts, one or two ex-hippies, the odd evangelical, and an array of folks who have never had a religious thought in their lives. In any university, you’re likely to find sympathetic faculty and hostile faculty, Democrats and Republicans and Libertarians, gay faculty and straight faculty, faculty with kids and faculty without kids. Universities are kind of like real life in that way (if in very few others). There will be many different voices and many chances to hear them.

2. Failure to understand the terms.

What does “liberal” mean? Votes Democrat? Has different views on sexual morality? Doesn’t go to church? Will advise your child to ignore his parents from here on out?

These terms (liberal/ politically correct/ feminist/ postmodernist) tend to be used as general scare-words, not as representations of particular points of view. “Liberal” and “conservative” are almost empty terms at this point; they’ve got to be defined. Particularly in certain homeschooling circles, “feminist” FAR too often means “Everything that’s wrong with the twenty-first century in my opinion.”

(Hint, people: that’s not what the word means.)

Perhaps you have a particularly definition in mind. You may indeed find it worrisome that your child will be taught by Democrats. (See Point #3.) Fine; you’re entitled to your worries. Just be sure that you define those terms clearly for yourself if you’re going to throw them around.

3. Failure to understand the purpose of higher education.

Eighteen and nineteen-year-olds should be mature enough to take classes from faculty they disagree with–or else they’re not mature enough to be at university.

Higher education isn’t just about absorbing information; it’s also about learning how to listen to someone with whom you largely disagree, pick out what’s valuable, and figure out how to respond to the rest. It is also –and this is even more important–about allowing yourself to be challenged. If you go into university unwilling to even listen to opposing perspectives, you’re not likely to benefit a great deal. You’ll be so busy defending yourself that you won’t be able to entertain the possibility that, in some areas, you might be wrong.

I myself have had a very frustrating time teaching students who come into William & Mary primed to resist the lies of “liberal faculty.” (That includes a lot of home educated students, who register for for my classes because they think I’m safe.) Every time I say something that strikes them as possibly “liberal,” all of their defenses go up and they tune me out. I can’t play devil’s advocate or dialogue with them–they immediately put me on the list of untrustworthy professors and stop listening.

And at that point they become unteachable.

I’m often asked how home educated students stack up against others in my classes. My overwhelming impression is that they’re more fragile. They’ve got little resilience; I can’t push at their presuppositions even a little bit. Maybe they’re afraid those presuppositions will shatter.

See why I can’t answer the questions in those emails?

What should these parents be asking instead? How about: How can my student find a group of likeminded peers, a religious community, a church, to support them as they study? In my opinion, that’s far more important than finding faculty that agree with you. How can I find a Dean of Students office that thinks parents should be partners in education, rather than telling them to bug off and leave eighteen-year-olds to their own devices? I think the most destructive attitude to encounter in university staff and faculty is the one that says: They’re grown-ups. Pay your tuition and get out of their lives. Do you know of a faculty member in literature/philosophy/biology/history who is thoughtful and trustworthy and willing to mentor? One or two close relationships are important; a whole faculty that agrees with your entire belief system is not.

As always, thoughts and comments are welcome.

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My oldest son, Christopher, came back from his gap year trip a couple of weeks ago, and I asked him to put down a few thoughts on the experience. He’ll be entering UVA as a freshman this fall.

My first idea was that I was going to take an entire year between high school and college, go live in in Australia, and work. Through a serious of both fortunate and unfortunate events, that original idea mutated into me visiting five different countries for five and a half months. Just as an overview, I spent four weeks in South Africa working to rehabilitate Vervet monkeys, a week in Egypt visiting friends, eight weeks in India doing teaching/community work, six weeks in China learning martial arts, and then four weeks in Australia working at a zoo. It was all volunteer work, which is code for “you’re working as hard as anyone with a regular job but instead of getting paid, you’re paying to do it.”

It probably goes without saying that I had an amazing time. I also feel like the trip prepared me for real life a little more than I would have been otherwise, and it has definitely given me a clear idea of what I want to do with myself for, well, the rest of my life. So if you’re looking for something to think about, work experience, maturity, and an idea of what direction you want to head with your life in general, I can’t recommend enough taking time to travel. What follows here are my tips for those of you who have decided you want to take a gap year.

TIP NO. 1: Be Aware of How Much Everything Costs
I used a company called Realgap to do all my travels, and in retrospect I could have done a lot better. I’m not criticizing them per se, but they did cost a *lot* more than I would have paid if I had booked through someone else or even just booked the projects directly. If you want to do a project in a foreign country, search around before you decide whether you want to go by yourself–or, if you’re going with a travel company, which travel company to go with. Play the field a little and see what you can find.

Also, look for reviews posted by people who have already used the company. Again, in my opinion, Realgap isn’t terrible. They did help me out some, and it was nice to know I had some support, but they didn’t really do that much for me that I couldn’t have done through the projects directly. Realgap also has a lot of bad reviews online, although if you ask them about this you’ll get an email that says something along the lines of “Grumble…mutter…trolls….troublemakers…mutter mutter…..”

Had I booked directly through the projects I could have saved a few thousand dollars, possibly as much as $5,000. Realgap takes a lot off the top. One thing you can do is look at the programs they offer, then search the internet for the names of those projects and see if there’s anywhere else you can book them through–or if you can book them direct. My first project, for example, was Riverside Rehabilitation Center in South Africa. Had I searched their name, I would have found their website, on which they have an application form.

If you want to use a travel company, again, search the internet! One of the girls who was in South Africa used a company called Bush Direct that I believe does several other Africa programs as well as the one I was on…the woman who runs the company actually came out and checked on the girl. It’s small, but it won’t charge you much more than you would pay to book the program yourself. And don’t make the same mistake I did; read reviews of the travel company before you book with it.

If you want to get some basic ideas of what it would be like to travel in certain countries, what companies to use, and the experiences of those who have gone before, check out http://www.travellersconnected.com/.

TIP NO. 2: Decide Whether to Go Alone or Not

I went traveling by myself, and I did projects, so in essence I had stuff to do and people to do it with in every country. I have a feeling that if I had traveled by myself and just done touristy things I would have been driven completely insane by boredom. So to sum up; if you want to travel by yourself, you should sign up for programs. If you want to travel with a friend, it’s still a fine idea for both of you to sign up for projects and programs, but it’s easier to just travel around without stopping in any one place too long if you have a friend to keep you from going nuts.

If you want to find good projects and programs, google is your best friend. Get an idea of what kind of thing you might want to do and search for it. If you don’t know, you can always go look at Realgap’s websites for ideas, and then try to find a cheaper alternative to using them. But let me just say again, they’re not the worst company you could use, just expensive.

TIP NO. 3: Be Careful

Aside from the obvious rules (don’t go to dangerous looking places, avoid social faux pas, don’t get in the unmarked white van with “Free Candy” written on the side in Hindi), watch out for friendly people who come up and start talking to you. They will rarely get to the point right away, but the point is almost always….no, in fact, there’s no “almost” about it….that they want your money and will go to almost any lengths to get it.

If you’re going to be a world traveler, especially in third world countries, you have to learn to be firm with people, and sometimes just downright rude. If you’re basically a nice person this can be a little jarring, but it’s a vital survival skill.

A good rule of thumb is this; if the person you’re talking to is (beyond a shadow of a doubt) another traveler, all is well. If the person is from the country you’re in, be very, very careful, especially if you’re an obvious tourist in a third world country. No matter how friendly they seem, do not agree to go anywhere or do anything with them, unless you’re specifically told it’s alright by your guide if you have one.

TIP NO. 4: Take Every Available Opportunity

Taking a gap year is an opportunity for personal growth and amazing experiences, but you’re not going to experience any if you spend it doing the same thing you would be doing at home in foreign countries. Take every opportunity, even if it seems scary or costs extra money. You won’t ever regret it.

Despite being a little low on money, I paid extra in Africa to take a trip to Kruger National Park, and I would have been a real moron not to. I also took some time off my project in China and went, by myself, on a 26 hour train ride to Beijing, where I hiked the Great Wall and saw Tiananmen Square and the Forbidden City. Doing things like that–taking a week’s trip with no kind of backup–helped me develop more of a sense of how to cope with difficulties, although I did in that week develop the concept of something which I call a “Chinese Morning” which is when you set out with the specific goal of doing something and are foiled at every turn until you’re ready to become a hermit and live alone in the Alps for the rest of your life by about noon.

TIP NO. 5: You Are An American…..I Assume….

If you’re American, you’re going to get even more attention from locals of developing/third world countries than people from other first world countries would. It may also mean that you’re going to be considered a little slow on the uptake or arrogant before people even get to know you. Don’t take it personally, just do your best to show them it’s not the case. Unless you are stupid or arrogant, in which case you’re just out of luck.

And to all you Canadians reading this…..go away.

Just kidding. Everybody likes Canadians.

So those are my top five tips for travelers. And I’ll say it again; I had an amazing trip and would recommend the experience to anybody. Get out there. Have some real life before college.

Good luck on your travels.

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Having a bit of a summer break…

July 3, 2010

…both from home schooling and from blogging about it. In the meantime, if you haven’t already seen them, check out our new YouTube question-and-answer sessions about dictation and vocabulary.
In the meantime, just for entertainment: here’s a sentence I ran across at the beginning of a review of the Canadian film Growing Op:
Home-schooling and [...]

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College: online or not?

June 16, 2010

I was driving my sixteen-year-old son into Williamsburg tonight (actually, being driven by him, a different and altogether more terrifying experience) when I heard this story on Marketplace:
KAI RYSSDAL: Last year, we reported, along with ProPublica, on some of the high-pressure recruiting tactics that are being used at for-profit colleges, like at the biggest one, [...]

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College debt

May 28, 2010

I’ve been saying this in my lectures about college admissions for the last five years. Read the entire article here. WELL worth your time.
“Placing the Blame as Students Are Buried in Debt”
By Ron Lieber
Like many middle-class families, Cortney Munna and her mother began the college selection process with a grim determination. They would [...]

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Guest post: Staci Thomas on science, technology, and girls

May 22, 2010

What Bias?
By Staci Thomas, P.E.
Staci Thomas is a licensed professional engineer who works part time and home educates her four daughters.

Recently, The New York Times ran a story about a report titled “Why So Few?” The report, released by the American Association of University Women, summarized the extensive research on women in the science, [...]

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The home school resource center booklet

May 21, 2010

Last year, I asked my readers what they’d like to see their local bookstore do for home educators. I got a host of wonderful suggestions. So I’m happy to announce that Peace Hill Press has now published a booklet for bookstore owners and managers. We’re hoping it will help more and more [...]

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Foreign language resources

May 15, 2010

I ran across this article in the Technology section of the New York Times and thought some of you might find it a helpful starting place for recommendations. (Experiences with any of these programs? Post a comment.)
Foreign language study at home is always a challenge–we’ve used Rosetta Stone for modern spoken languages with [...]

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Torah Home Education Conference, June 13

May 7, 2010

Some of my readers might be interested in this relatively new resource for home educators:
The general home-school movement began in earnest over three decades ago, and in the non-Jewish world, conferences, curriculum fairs, cooperative learning and support groups abound. This extensive network of support has been invaluable to many parents, particularly those new to [...]

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Guest post, conclusion: Karen Hollis on working with the dysgraphic child

May 1, 2010

This is the final post in Karen Hollis’s three-part series; be sure to read Parts One and Two as well.
But what about writing itself? How do you go about improving the handwriting, much less the drafting of paragraphs and essays, of a dysgraphic child?
One of your early goals will be to develop physical writing [...]

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