What's something your spouse forgot to mention (not complaining!!!)

[Karin]

Today I received a mysterious email from my mil, a forward from dh's Norwegian relatives talking about someone visiting them in July. So, I emailed my mil only to find out that she's offered to pay for my dh and his brother to go visit their relatives in Norway!

Now, this is a once in his adulthood trip I'm happy he may get to take (waiting to hear from his brother) for free, but how on earth did he forget to mention it? btw, he knows I'm posting about this.

[j.griff]

I'd guess it would just be the busy-ness of life getting in the way, (like when I go to put a load of laundry in the dryer and instead have to stop to console a crying child, help someone wash jelly off their hands, untangle someone from a skein of yarn, etc. and then totally forget about it till the next day, at which point is smells nasty and I have to rewash it with Febreeze to get the skanky damp smell out of it. You know, kinda like that :) ) that pushes it out of his present mind. :D

ETA: Dur, LOL, I know DH has forgotten to tell me something before, but I can't remember what it was ROFLOL!!!!!!!

[Tracey in TX]

What a riot! DH and BIL will deeply enjoy Norway. Anyone over 70y/o (post WWII) is fluent in English. They're kind, albeit reserved. The country is GORGEOUS!!! I hope DS will go this summer (or probably next) with our former exchange student.

The Resistance Museum is a must-see. It's deeply moving. Have him watch The Heroes of Telemark (Kirk Douglas). It's based on a true story; during WWII the Germans attempted to use the Norsk hydro plant to make materials needed in a nuclear bomb. My kids were captivated by the story--and the scenery.

What is his itinerary? I'm SOOO envious :)

[Doran]

Just tonight we had discussion, with the kids as witnesses, that dh had failed to tell us he has a new person working in his three person shop. A fourth is a big deal in a shop that small. Dh was sure he'd told us.

The funniest, though, happened when we were newly engaged. We surprised his family (I later learned that arriving unannounced is typical for all of them!), coming in just as they finished dinner. It was the first time I'd met any of his family, so I sat at the table sharing pleasantries and trying to be polite while inside I was about to die. I noticed everyone was smiling A LOT, but I just figured that was normal for a first meeting, and me being so charming :rolleyes:. At some point, his mother turns to me and says,

"So, why didn't you bring your daughter?"

"Daughter?", I ask.

"Yes, J told me you have a daughter."

I cast a befuddled look at dhand see him grinning extra big, blushing like mad, and shaking his head. I learned then that he'd told his mother that I was in my mid-30's (I was 28, dh was 29), had a daughter from a previous relationship, and that the girl's father was in prison for drugs.

He'd been teasing his parents when he first told them about meeting me, and made up this crazy story just to pull their legs. Too bad he never rememebered to CORRECT the story, even after we became engaged. Details, details. :D

Doran

[OnTheBrink]

The biggest thing EX forgot to mention before we married was that he's gay. :eek:

[Pam "SFSOM" in TN]

The biggest thing EX forgot to mention before we married was that he's gay. :eek:

See, now that's an itsy detail you'd think he'd have thought to mention. :mad:

[Doran]

See, now that's an itsy detail you'd think he'd have thought to mention. :mad:

You'd think. Except apparently he wasn't...thinking, that is. Ugh. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/rolleyes008.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

Doran

[WTMindy]

the time that *I* forgot to tell my dh that someone had called him to set up an interview for a job that he really wanted. I forgot for a couple of days. I was so mortified and still can't believe that I forgot something so important!!!! He ended up getting the job anyway, but he was NOT happy with me for awhile.

This certainly doesn't top SolaMichella's, though!

[Tracey in TX]

The biggest thing EX forgot to mention before we married was that he's gay. :eek:

YOU WIN! That trumps any other oopsy this decade :eek:

(I "dated" a guy and was so excited to have him lean over and kiss me...only to instead, he used the intimate moment to show me a photo of him kissing his BF. Ah, bummer!)

[OnTheBrink]

YOU WIN! That trumps any other oopsy this decade :eek:

(I "dated" a guy and was so excited to have him lean over and kiss me...only to instead, he used the intimate moment to show me a photo of him kissing his BF. Ah, bummer!)


What's my prize? Can I have a decent man to replace him? Can I? Huh?

And, to add insult to injury, his entire flipping family knew he was gay and none said a single word to me. They all sat there at our wedding, lips sealed. People are amazing, aren't they? *sigh*

[Michelle T]

for him and his mom. A two week trip to Ireland. Right in the middle of our huge house renovation. In fact, walls were being torn out of our house while he was gone.

DH HAD said he would love to go to Ireland one day (his mom is from there, and has tons of family there). DH just neglected to mention when he actually paid all the $$$$ for the trip.
Michelle T

[JennifersLost]

well, there was the little bit about MOVING TO CANADA he forgot to ever mention was a possibility. I razz him about that all the time. He's a Canadian citizen, but when we met he'd been living in the US for 16 years. It seemed kind of permanent at the time. Never once mentioned he might like to move back home before that ring was on my finger!

[Renthead Mommy]

In our town you couldn't park on the street overnight, which was between 2am and 5am. When I went back to visit my father for a week, I left my car in his parents driveway, because there was room if I was at the front of the line.

A few months later I get a notice saying there is a bench warrant for my arrest due to unpaid ($10) parking ticket. I was SO pissed! I hadn't had ANY parking tickets! Then I looked at the date and realized it was from when I had gone home to my dad's over spring break.

Found the boyfriend. Asked him if anything exciting had happened over spring break about 6 months before. He looked at me clueless. "Any after work parties?" (It was college. We worked in bars. 2AM was after work.) His response "Um...." absoulutely clueless. I pulled the letter out and showed him. Super guilty look on his face. "Oh yeah, I meant to go pay that."

[Danestress]

Today I received a mysterious email from my mil, a forward from dh's Norwegian relatives talking about someone visiting them in July. So, I emailed my mil only to find out that she's offered to pay for my dh and his brother to go visit their relatives in Norway!

Now, this is a once in his adulthood trip I'm happy he may get to take (waiting to hear from his brother) for free, but how on earth did he forget to mention it? btw, he knows I'm posting about this.

He probably didn't totally forget - maybe he was waiting for the right moment to bring it up because he didn't think you would be crazy about the idea? I have to admit, I would be partly happy for my DH, but I do think it's sort of an odd thing for parents to offer to send kids to Europe without their spouses. Nice but .... maybe it would work better in some families than others. I don't think DH would be real happy about me doing it either.

But then again, what a great opportunity.

Anyway, my DH is a much better rememberer than I am. I don't think he accidentally forgets much. The only thing he's ever "forgotten" to tell me was when friends of ours lost a baby at nine months. I was probably 5 months pregnant at the time, and he "forgot" to tell me until after our twins were born. I think he knew it would distress me, but even so, I would have liked to have known. They lived out of town and he wrote and emailed with the DH more than I did the DW, so I never knew.

[elegantlion]

My ex (long ago, far away) forgot to tell me he liked his old girlfriend better, until I caught her answering the phone at his friends house while he was visiting them. I packed all my boxes and then went on the vacation we had planned, by myself.

[Laura Corin]

DH forgot to mention (okay, he didn't know) that his previously-diagnosed complete infertility would mysteriously cure itself and we'd end up (after being together for eight years) with a gorgeous boy and (3 1/2 years later) another one.

We took five pregnancy tests the first time, then DH honestly couldn't fully comprehend that he was a father until Calvin was about three months old.

Laura

[Karin]

He'd been teasing his parents when he first told them about meeting me, and made up this crazy story just to pull their legs. Too bad he never rememebered to CORRECT the story, even after we became engaged. Details, details. :D

Doran

This is SO funny! That's even funnier than the first time I found out that my dh, who appeared to be very earnest and serious had a sense of humour, but I'll tell that, anyway.

We'd gone on a couple of dates when he asked me (I was 32, he was 35) if I'd ever been married before. I said no, and, naturally, returned the question. Now, bearing in mind that I'd never seen him crack a single joke (he's introveted enough that most people thougt he was shy, but he's not), he then said, deadpan, "yes, three times." He had me for a split second--until I did the math with other things I knew he'd done and realized he was pulling my leg!

[Karin]

He probably didn't totally forget - maybe he was waiting for the right moment to bring it up because he didn't think you would be crazy about the idea? I have to admit, I would be partly happy for my DH, but I do think it's sort of an odd thing for parents to offer to send kids to Europe without their spouses. Nice but .... maybe it would work better in some families than others. I don't think DH would be real happy about me doing it either.



No, dh forgot and readily admitted it. My parents just took the entire family on a week long holiday, so everything's been upside down for us. As for going without spouses, that doesn't bother me a bit as I'm very independent by nature (and nurture! But I was never ever homesick when I went away from my family growing up). She can't afford to send the spouses and I know that, but she really wants her sons to see their relatives, many of whom are quite old, again. She's 83 and although she's gardening again, she's not as up to travelling since she fell and broke her hip (it was definitely that order as she tripped on something). The only reason she can even do this is she's very, very good at managing her money. She's generous, but she's very, very frugal in many areas in her own life.

[Karin]

Yes, that's a very, very big thing. And for his family, too.

[Karin]

DH forgot to mention (okay, he didn't know) that his previously-diagnosed complete infertility would mysteriously cure itself and we'd end up (after being together for eight years) with a gorgeous boy and (3 1/2 years later) another one.

We took five pregnancy tests the first time, then DH honestly couldn't fully comprehend that he was a father until Calvin was about three months old.

Laura

Oh, what a lovely, lovely thing to forget!!!!!;):)

[Brigitte]

What's my prize? Can I have a decent man to replace him? Can I? Huh?

And, to add insult to injury, his entire flipping family knew he was gay and none said a single word to me. They all sat there at our wedding, lips sealed. People are amazing, aren't they? *sigh*

My sister's in-laws sat through the wedding eventhough they knew he (their son, brother) was a paranoid scitzophrenic (I know I misspelled that, but you understand). They thought marriage would make things better for him. :eek:

[Call Me Cordelia]

My mom was speaking with a friend and former co-worker of my father's. The co-worker and his wife had moved out of state, but they all still kept in touch via occasional phone calls, christmas cards, etc.... So...co-worker called and was chatting with my Mom, mostly about his dog that had recently passed away, how he had gotten a new dog, etc... This conversation went on for about seven minutes.

Then my Mom said, "Co-worker, how's your wife?" "Oh," co-worker says, "she died last October." LOL! My Mom was totally dumbfounded and just handed the phone to my dad!!

[Eliana]

The most memorable, even after all of these years, was very early in our marriage.

We had a series of unexpected expenses crop up, and then came one more - which was going to take us over the line... I was so scared and panicked!

When I spoke to dh about it, he wasn't worried at all!

It turned out that he had gotten a bonus a whole back and opened a savings account with it... and forgotten to mention it!

Eliana

[Brigitte]

My mom was speaking with a friend and former co-worker of my father's. The co-worker and his wife had moved out of state, but they all still kept in touch via occasional phone calls, christmas cards, etc.... So...co-worker called and was chatting with my Mom, mostly about his dog that had recently passed away, how he had gotten a new dog, etc... This conversation went on for about seven minutes.

Then my Mom said, "Co-worker, how's your wife?" "Oh," co-worker says, "she died last October." LOL! My Mom was totally dumbfounded and just handed the phone to my dad!!

:eek: says it all!