KidsHappen
02-25-2008, 05:14 PM
My pregnanat dd drove from Atlanta to TN to go to the funeral in TX with us. She was sick every day, lost ten pounds and got very dehydrated. The baby's heart beat is fine though and he/she is moving around plenty so all is good there.
14 yr. old dd got an ear infection and we had to go to the emergency room in the middle of the night in route and then find an all night pharmacy which wasn't easy in a strange town. She spent the next week throwing up as well and also got dehydrated.
Bi-polar dd is not handling the stress well and is barely holding things together. All of the girls were exposed to the same cousins that gave them lice last year. As far as I can tell they didn't get them this time (Thank God).
I had a very upset stomach and was nausous (sp?) for the first ten days and lost ten pounds (which I couldn't afford to lose) and got dehydrated as well. Also hurt my back pretty badly moving furniture and finally got an infection and had to have my dr. call a prescription in to a pharmacy here. All of my regular prescriptions ran out and I had to have the refills mailed here.
Dh had to leave immediately after the funeral to fly to his new job to do a critical upgrade so I have been doing all of this without him. I have to drive home alone and I do not travel well.
Emotionally we all handled the passing fairly well even though it was a complete shock. Mom was in poor health, getting kind of senile and not able to care for herself very well. She passed on the 11th and my one brother wasn't able to make it here until the 17th so the funeral was a little later than we would have liked and mom was not looking as good as she could have.
Mom was a hoarder so she had three 24 ft. trucks full of stuff that had to be moved. She had six desks, five dining room sets, at least that many bedroom sets and so much more. She has enough clothes to clothe a small country and probably every toy we have ever owned. Also nothing was sorted. She would have a jar full of shells with a diamond ring buried in it. The jewelry box wasn't holding any of the family jewels. Everything has to be gone through with a fine tooth comb and of course nothing has ever been cleaned. We all have major allergy attacks just walking in the house.
She also has eight cats that we can't find homes for. No one lives here so none of us can take them. And all of the shelters say that they will put them to sleep if they can find homes for them so they are still at her house. We have to move them soon though because the city has bought her house (which she was renting) and they are moving it to a heritage village. The movers have already showed up to access moving it.
I am doing all of the cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry and shopping and I have the easiest job. Of course every day I clean out the kitchen and other spaces so that I can work and every night they fill the spaces up with more stuff from the old house. There are so many people here that there is not enough spaces for everyone to sleep. I can even walk in my room and there are kids sleeping on pallets in the closets.
And this will be finacially devestating. I had no idea how much it costs to have a funeral. We didn't have life insurance for her. The funeral and cremation was $7000 and apparently this was cheaper than burying her in a cemetary plot. We spent $1000 on hotel rooms the first week we were here because there was no where else to go. $500 for a rental car because we need two cars to all get here and then about $1000 to feed everyone because there are so many people and it was awhile before we had dishes and a functioning kitchen. Plus I had to feed everyone after the funeral. Between this an the month with out income because of my dh changing jobs we wiped out our entire 401K and will have some debt. And I am thankful that we will be able to make it through the next two months.
I have to leave day after tomorrow because a psychiatric appointment on Friday and I really think that I need it! I have company coming to my house on the third. Luckily my dh is back home and is cleaning for me so basically all I will have to do is shop for groceries when I get home. After this is all over I plan to sleep for a week and then we will have to hit the books and make up for all of the lost school time. I am really considering letting the two youngest go to school next year.
The child who was here all along is going to stay here for two more weeks to help my brother and because I really don't want him to stay here alone. Plus the lady that she was staying with just got out of the hospital from major surgery so she is needing help as well. I am really proud of the older two. They are really showing their maturity. The have been busting but, handling the stress and holding themselves together very well. I don't know what we would have done without them.
Well I guess that's all for now. I need to get back to work. Continued well wishes and prayers please and thank you guys so much for all of the support before. It really meant alot to me (brought tears to my eyes).
14 yr. old dd got an ear infection and we had to go to the emergency room in the middle of the night in route and then find an all night pharmacy which wasn't easy in a strange town. She spent the next week throwing up as well and also got dehydrated.
Bi-polar dd is not handling the stress well and is barely holding things together. All of the girls were exposed to the same cousins that gave them lice last year. As far as I can tell they didn't get them this time (Thank God).
I had a very upset stomach and was nausous (sp?) for the first ten days and lost ten pounds (which I couldn't afford to lose) and got dehydrated as well. Also hurt my back pretty badly moving furniture and finally got an infection and had to have my dr. call a prescription in to a pharmacy here. All of my regular prescriptions ran out and I had to have the refills mailed here.
Dh had to leave immediately after the funeral to fly to his new job to do a critical upgrade so I have been doing all of this without him. I have to drive home alone and I do not travel well.
Emotionally we all handled the passing fairly well even though it was a complete shock. Mom was in poor health, getting kind of senile and not able to care for herself very well. She passed on the 11th and my one brother wasn't able to make it here until the 17th so the funeral was a little later than we would have liked and mom was not looking as good as she could have.
Mom was a hoarder so she had three 24 ft. trucks full of stuff that had to be moved. She had six desks, five dining room sets, at least that many bedroom sets and so much more. She has enough clothes to clothe a small country and probably every toy we have ever owned. Also nothing was sorted. She would have a jar full of shells with a diamond ring buried in it. The jewelry box wasn't holding any of the family jewels. Everything has to be gone through with a fine tooth comb and of course nothing has ever been cleaned. We all have major allergy attacks just walking in the house.
She also has eight cats that we can't find homes for. No one lives here so none of us can take them. And all of the shelters say that they will put them to sleep if they can find homes for them so they are still at her house. We have to move them soon though because the city has bought her house (which she was renting) and they are moving it to a heritage village. The movers have already showed up to access moving it.
I am doing all of the cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry and shopping and I have the easiest job. Of course every day I clean out the kitchen and other spaces so that I can work and every night they fill the spaces up with more stuff from the old house. There are so many people here that there is not enough spaces for everyone to sleep. I can even walk in my room and there are kids sleeping on pallets in the closets.
And this will be finacially devestating. I had no idea how much it costs to have a funeral. We didn't have life insurance for her. The funeral and cremation was $7000 and apparently this was cheaper than burying her in a cemetary plot. We spent $1000 on hotel rooms the first week we were here because there was no where else to go. $500 for a rental car because we need two cars to all get here and then about $1000 to feed everyone because there are so many people and it was awhile before we had dishes and a functioning kitchen. Plus I had to feed everyone after the funeral. Between this an the month with out income because of my dh changing jobs we wiped out our entire 401K and will have some debt. And I am thankful that we will be able to make it through the next two months.
I have to leave day after tomorrow because a psychiatric appointment on Friday and I really think that I need it! I have company coming to my house on the third. Luckily my dh is back home and is cleaning for me so basically all I will have to do is shop for groceries when I get home. After this is all over I plan to sleep for a week and then we will have to hit the books and make up for all of the lost school time. I am really considering letting the two youngest go to school next year.
The child who was here all along is going to stay here for two more weeks to help my brother and because I really don't want him to stay here alone. Plus the lady that she was staying with just got out of the hospital from major surgery so she is needing help as well. I am really proud of the older two. They are really showing their maturity. The have been busting but, handling the stress and holding themselves together very well. I don't know what we would have done without them.
Well I guess that's all for now. I need to get back to work. Continued well wishes and prayers please and thank you guys so much for all of the support before. It really meant alot to me (brought tears to my eyes).