Robin Hood
02-17-2008, 03:16 PM
My 2 9yo dd had an eye opening moment yesterday. Two evenings ago as I took my elder dd to a 4H meeting, my younger stayed home with the neighbors. (They have 2 girls close in age to mine.) The 3 were busy at sign making while elder dd and I were preparing to leave. I locked up, sent them all out and off we went. I absent mindedly noticed that the 3 were at the curb waving a sign that sort of was selling "poses" to passerbyes. I still thought nothing of it. Half way to our destination, my mind began to grasp the possibilities of the meaning to the not so innocent. I told dd that from now on that is not a game they should play and I'll talk to other dd when we get home. So I did. That was the end of it. In their innocense they could not even comprehend or question it.
Next day. We go to market. We do self check out. I am occupied and don't notice a thing. While I am busy scanning, elder 9yo says "MOMMY, the lady on that magazine isn't wearing a top!" Right at a child's eye level is Sports Ill Swim Suit magazine ready to buy as a last minute impulse item. My eyes close. What do I say? (I have a slow mental processor.) I blurt out, "That is why I don't want you "posing". What followed was so hysterical that the man in the next isle who overheard it all was giggling.
"Oh my gosh Mommy! I'll never Pose again?" Their little hands go right over their eyes. Then they move out their fingers like blinds on a horse and turn their backs to the magazine stand. "Mommy, I am tempted to look. What do I do?" "Practice self contrlol." I respond trying to act like it's a non issue. "Why would any woman do that?" they asked. "Oh, Mommy, please help me not to look!" and on it went. I did complain to management, but I was only the second person to do so, so the manager seemed doubtful that it would help. I was surprised that my kids were proud of me for complaining about it.
Now everytime they here the word "pose", wonder what their minds will conjur up.
I just wish it wasn't so....but such is the world in which we now live. I did tell my girls that I was sorry they had to see that at such a young age; I never saw anything like until I was 17, but it's always been there, hiding, for those ......
Next day. We go to market. We do self check out. I am occupied and don't notice a thing. While I am busy scanning, elder 9yo says "MOMMY, the lady on that magazine isn't wearing a top!" Right at a child's eye level is Sports Ill Swim Suit magazine ready to buy as a last minute impulse item. My eyes close. What do I say? (I have a slow mental processor.) I blurt out, "That is why I don't want you "posing". What followed was so hysterical that the man in the next isle who overheard it all was giggling.
"Oh my gosh Mommy! I'll never Pose again?" Their little hands go right over their eyes. Then they move out their fingers like blinds on a horse and turn their backs to the magazine stand. "Mommy, I am tempted to look. What do I do?" "Practice self contrlol." I respond trying to act like it's a non issue. "Why would any woman do that?" they asked. "Oh, Mommy, please help me not to look!" and on it went. I did complain to management, but I was only the second person to do so, so the manager seemed doubtful that it would help. I was surprised that my kids were proud of me for complaining about it.
Now everytime they here the word "pose", wonder what their minds will conjur up.
I just wish it wasn't so....but such is the world in which we now live. I did tell my girls that I was sorry they had to see that at such a young age; I never saw anything like until I was 17, but it's always been there, hiding, for those ......