Ack! why is it so hard to let kids own their problems?!

[lynn]

I am doing my best and letting my son make his mistakes and he's proven that even though he does not do things my timing or my way he gets things done just in time. I've been following his grammar grade online I won't bore with details but he promised he'd make a B and not to worry and by golly he's at 79.6 the kid just might do it again. I am so glad I am learning not to nag this kid. He just marches to the beat of his own drum but I wonder how long can he live like this, always pulling things off at the last minute. I guess he's just one of those people that never really have to try because they will always succeed at the end. In the mean time I express my concerns, listen to his reply, then sit back silently and always come out shaking my head in disbelief that he actually took owner ship and pulls it off without needing my help. It's a good thing, yes?

[Beth in Central TX]

Why is it so hard for me to let my kids handle their own problems? Because I'm SuperMom, and I want to fix everything! But I've learned that it's better for them if I don't take over and solve everything.

Yes, I do thinks it's a good thing that your son can take his own path and still succeed. My middle son is like this. He is dramatic and says everything with an exclamation mark. He lacks common sense at times, but like your son, whatever he sets out to do, he does. My son's personality is so different from mine, yet we are so alike too. I'm learning to embrace his differences, and let him do things his way (even though my way is easier and better, right?). He surprises me all the time and keeps our homeschool umm...interesting.