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JennifersLost
02-12-2008, 01:16 AM
Something that would be "on" all the time moving through the world a pace or two ahead of me while I negotiate through life with my kids around me.

I was just reading a book out loud to my 6 yo dd at bedtime that was humorous and irreverent and at the end of the first chapter all of a sudden - boom! - a mother dies in childbirth. I had no chance to soften the blow except to say that she got sick and died, rather than she started to bleed and didn't stop! Yikes! Some sort of foreshadowing or plot heads-up would have been appreciated!

But that was small potatoes. I was listening to the radio in the car when I went to pick up ds (14 yo) from his music class this afternoon. The announcer was interviewing some guy about C.S. Lewis. Safe enough topic, you'd think, right? I wasn't entirely following the conversation as my kid got in the car, but suddenly they were throwing around phrases like "sado-masochistic sex" and "whips and chains". Ummmm - what!!??!!!

So I'm trying so hard not to be the prudish parent. After all, I want my children to feel free to talk about sex with me, right? But that lasted for about ten seconds before I couldn't take it anymore and I hit the radio button and changed it to a rock n' roll station where at least they were only singing about getting it on.

I'm beginning to think I can't even fake being a liberal, cool mom anymore. Why can't we all go back to wearing braids and bonnets and reading Dick and Jane books?

Amy in Orlando
02-12-2008, 01:24 AM
Something that would be "on" all the time moving through the world a pace or two ahead of me while I negotiate through life with my kids around me.

I was just reading a book out loud to my 6 yo dd at bedtime that was humorous and irreverent and at the end of the first chapter all of a sudden - boom! - a mother dies in childbirth. I had no chance to soften the blow except to say that she got sick and died, rather than she started to bleed and didn't stop! Yikes! Some sort of foreshadowing or plot heads-up would have been appreciated!

But that was small potatoes. I was listening to the radio in the car when I went to pick up ds (14 yo) from his music class this afternoon. The announcer was interviewing some guy about C.S. Lewis. Safe enough topic, you'd think, right? I wasn't entirely following the conversation as my kid got in the car, but suddenly they were throwing around phrases like "sado-masochistic sex" and "whips and chains". Ummmm - what!!??!!!

So I'm trying so hard not to be the prudish parent. After all, I want my children to feel free to talk about sex with me, right? But that lasted for about ten seconds before I couldn't take it anymore and I hit the radio button and changed it to a rock n' roll station where at least they were only singing about getting it on.

I'm beginning to think I can't even fake being a liberal, cool mom anymore. Why can't we all go back to wearing braids and bonnets and reading Dick and Jane books?

Oh Jennifer, I'm so with you. I've always been the talk about it mom - ask me questions, I'll answer anything. But, like you, I'm more and more turning off the radio/tv and (gah, don't tell my mom) screening books. I totally get what you're saying. Nothing is "safe" even for us liberal moms.

I'll be whipping up some denim jumpers over the weekend, would you like one?

JennifersLost
02-12-2008, 01:29 AM
As long as I can wear a daisy chain and bare feet with it!

JennifersLost
02-12-2008, 01:31 AM
Yesterday while I was online looking at clothes I suddenly became overwhelmed for a desire to "go country"!

What the heck is that?

And would my college friends who watched me dress in all black for four years not die laughing if they ever saw such a thing!

Amy in Orlando
02-12-2008, 01:34 AM
Yesterday while I was online looking at clothes I suddenly became overwhelmed for a desire to "go country"!

What the heck is that?

And would my college friends who watched me dress in all black for four years not die laughing if they ever saw such a thing!

*snort* You are in a transitional stage, you don't want all black and you most definitely don't want country. Please email if you find yourself in need of an intervention.

kalanamak
02-12-2008, 06:47 AM
of the "yoots" at the store. My teen gang (oh how that word has changed) swore like truckers, but not around outsiders.