If anyone has real experience in recognizing suicidal warning signs,

[8FillTheHeart]

will you please PM me?

(BTW.....don't worry about me, this isn't about me, I promise!!)

[Gretchen in NJ]

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[8FillTheHeart]

Ok.......someone has responded with a great suggestion. Thanks everyone!
Karen

[LilyK]

Here is a link that I found. Also, I don't know if this is a common sign because I only have one case to go by, but I noticed a lack of care to hygiene (stopped bathing.)

http://www.sfsuicide.org/html/warning.html

[sunshine]

I just went through the harrowing ordeal of my aunt's suicide. She was catholic which was one reason it was so shocking. There were no indications. There were no warnings. Even in hindsight nothing. She actually told my uncle, they were on the dock getting ready to grill chicken, that she was going to take a shower since they had been doing yardwork. they had been drinking and snacking. Her blood alcohol was .15. I think that was what the coronoer said. Then she undressed, laid her clean clothes out on the jacuzzi tub, set her drink down beside her in the shower and sat down, took a pistol and shot herself in the head. No note, nothing. It took my uncle an hour to find her because he didn't hear the shower running (she didn't turn it on) and so he assumed she went somewhere else. He drove the neighborhood called her cell phone etc.

and then they looked at him as a suspect. Crazy crazy crazy days. Coroner proved it was suicide, we knew it was.

No warning. this was July 27th. Last week my uncles son called and said they found a folded up suicide note in her purse. It was about 3 month or so old. She had been planning it. And it was mean. But she never let anyone know. Never gave any indication, warning or anything that anything was wrong. She bickered with her husband ( I do too and so does everyone I know), but always seemed happy.

I have heard that the ones that are serious, don't give any warning. She didn't wrap up any business matters, she was an accountant, she didn't give anything away, she didn't call her best friend from childhood. Nothing. Just walked upstairs and shot herself.

We have been told to try not to feel guilt, or blame anyone. It was unstoppable. She was determined. It has left everyone who loved her angry with this incredibly selfish act.

I was told, when I worked for a child pyschiatrist for 3 yearss, that if there are symptoms there is hope, because they are letting you see it, and somewhere they want help. I hope that is the case with whoever you are worried about. And I pray someone intervenes. It is a horrible thing to do those who love you.

lv
Sunshine