Do you(usually) vote the same as your significant other?

[snickelfritz]

Just curious.


My dh and I are similar. Right now, we have some differing opinions. No more talking politics on date nights.:D


I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?



:bigear:

[Mrs Mungo]

My husband has never voted.

He's always said "why would you play a game in which the outcome is already decided?"

However, he's now decided that the stakes in this election are too high and he is actually registering to vote!!! We're voting the same way.

[RoughCollie]

My DH always votes for the Republican candidate.

I vote for whomever I please, no matter which party they hail from.

RC

[Sis]

Yes,

My husband used to be conservative but jumped ship.


Er..I was never conservative. When I was little I used to search the neighborhood for stray animals I could take home. I was destined to be a bleeding heart. :lol: (but apparently I am allergic to animals so they can't go to my house)

[Elaine]

We have always voted the same. We agree on many issues, but do disagree on some.

[Danestress]

He's accusing me of being a closet Republican.

The truth is, I am hopelessly on the fence. I still don't know who I am going to vote for in November.

[True Blue]

No, I think we've only voted the same a couple times. We'll probably vote the same this time but this is unusual for us.

[cathmom]

yep, except for once, I bet

[Jenny in Atl]

No, we move around. Sometimes one of us is the protest vote while the other logs in a conventional pick. We are in a very Republican area, so our 3rd party votes are pretty much for show. :tongue_smilie:

I was sad to see that last time the Green party was not on the ballot. I wish we had a plethora of parties and idea to choose from. Then we could make them duke it out in a House of Commons kind of way.

[Philothea]

Yes, except for the time he voted against getting a new plow truck in town and I didn't.

[Amy in Orlando]

We're about 1/2 and 1/2 although we seem to become more alike as we get older. My parents crack me up - they have cancelled each other's votes for 44 years with no sign of slowing down.

[Elisabeth in IL]

I think that we've usually voted the same but I can't say that we have 100% of the time.

[kokotg]

We always vote the same way. I am fascinated by Mary Matalin and James Carville. There's NO WAY I could do that.

[camibami]

Nope. To my knowledge, we never have in anything other than local elections. We just cancel each other out.

It works for us.
:D

[Dayle in Guatemala]

This year, yes. In years past, no. He tends to vote 3rd party while I vote more mainstream--usually Rep., but, also Dem.

[True Blue]

We always vote the same way. I am fascinated by Mary Matalin and James Carville. There's NO WAY I could do that.

That is a fascinating couple. They obviously need a lot of verbal/intellectual stimulation from their marriage. :D

[dangermom]

I think we're starting to vote the same more often. In years past we nearly always canceled each other out. But we still disagree some of the time.

[Frankie]

No. Mh DH is very much a republican. I'm very much a middle-of-the-road gal. We have on occasion, but not this year.

[Melissa B]

We always vote opposite each other. We may have voted the same on a school board member or something, but we've never voted the same on anything above that - not even sheriff or anyone. We occasionally vote the same on amendments though. :)

[KidsHappen]

I have been voting libertarian for as long as I can remember and my dh had been voting democrat. This year we were both on the Ron Paul train but it seems to have jumped track and I have no idea how either one of us are going to vote now.

My brothers cancel each other out every year and now feel the responsiblity to continue doing so.

[Jean in Newcastle]

Yes. I go through the voter's pamphlet with a fine tooth comb and mark my choices. If I am having a hard time making up my mind then dh and I discuss it. I give him a copy to take with him to the booth (he has requested this). We actually agree on most political topics so this works for us.

[tibbyl]

At the national level, always. At the state and local level, usually.

[hsmamainva]

Yes...we almost always vote the same.

[Plaid Dad]

Almost never. We're on opposite ends of the political spectrum, meaning in practice that we agree on what needs to change but differ radically in the solutions we favor. Our most significant political meeting ground is that we both tend to vote third-party. :)

[Peela]

We just had state elections here in my state in Australia. I was telling Dh I didnt really know who to vote for, so he told me, as if I didn't have a clue. Actually, I do have a clue, I just find them all pretty pathetic!
Anyway, no, apparently we don't agree. I am pretty left wing- actually, I put environment before economics- wheras he is not so environmentally caring and far more to the right, although he is no where near as "right" as many here! :)

[angela in ohio]

Yep, the same all of the time. We have exactly the same political views. (Don't feel bad for us, we have other things to discuss than politics.) :)

[Mama Lynx]

Usually, but not always.

[Erica in PA]

Yes, I am so glad that my dh and I are so on the same page, when it comes to politics, faith, issues, etc. We agree more with one another than with anyone else! It is so nice to always have someone right here to talk to, who already agrees with you, without having to clarify, and justify, and defend. I grew up a Republican in a family of Democrats, and that was a pain. :boxing_smiley:

Erica

[Carrie1234]

I can't think of a time we disagreed on a candidate. We've disagreed on a few points, but not the overall choice.

[Virginia Dawn]

Yes, most of the time. It is possible we have voted differently on minor issues, but I can't remember when.

Our thinking on politics runs very similar, and we discuss a lot. The differences are minimal.

I never used to be enthusiastic about politics and hardly voted, until dh discovered third party politics. Now I find it much more interesting and informative. Thinking "out of the box" opens your eyes.

[Andie]

This year there's debate about vote "wasting."

[Jumping In Puddles]

We have been voting the same way for as long as we've been together (8 years today! :hurray:) and I don't see that changing any time soon.

[threetreasurs]

We always have but this year our opinions are split!:001_huh:

[Old Dominion Heather]

Usually, but not always. We are more likely to differ on a local and state level than a national level, but this year may be the one. We differ about as often as we argee, but if anyone gets annoyed about it, it is me, not him... Which is nice.

[nestof3]

Though my husband and I are both libertarian in philosophy, I never vote it because it will never happen, where he has.

So, our views are the same politically, but I am more of a realist than he is.

Does that make sense?

[pqr]

Absolutely.

Some of the many reasons I married my wife are due to the facts that she is (in my view) intelligent, insightful and patriotic. Given this how could we possibly not vote for the same candidate :-)

[transientChris]

We almost always vote the same. I have more time to research things and he trusts my judgement. He reads some campaign literature but I point out why I am voting for x or y and he almost always agrees. I would say that twenty years ago, we may have differed some but in the last five years or so, I think our ballots are probably identical. We discuss things like bond issues or constitutional amendments. I couldn't have gotten married to someone who was of a different political idealogy than me. It is too important to me. We do discuss politics some because it is one of my interests and he doesn't mind talking about that. Now my interests in crime and his interest in physics doesn't get much conversation around here.

[Jenny in Atl]

Though my husband and I are both libertarian in philosophy, I never vote it because it will never happen, where he has.

So, our views are the same politically, but I am more of a realist than he is.

Does that make sense?

I disagree. If people start at the local level, electing more third party candidates, then move to state, and finally federal, we will see a change. I think more now than in many years, this country is ripe for a multi-party system. Don't give up on your views and finding people willing to represent them.

[Dana in OR]

I can only assume that we vote similarly, but it's a secret ballot, eh?

We probably differ on local elections when we get our info from various sources (not the same). National, I'm pretty sure we're aligned.

[sleepy]

Just curious.
I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?


Yeah, I've always wondered how they make that work.

Dh and I vote the same way, not by design... but just because we share the same political leanings. I suppose I could be okay with us voting different ways... but it sure would feel weird.

[Rebecca in GA]

I wish we had a plethora of parties and idea to choose from. Then we could make them duke it out in a House of Commons kind of way.

Me, too!

And no, we don't always vote the same way. But we don't talk about it. My dad never talked about his politics or his income and I guess I inherited that.

[Laurie]

I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?



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Mary Matalin's got her Ragin' Cajun, and I've got my Cranky Yankee! :)

My dh is never home when the Democrats call for $$ so I stop them right away to save them some time since they're not talking to the resident Democrat. One woman sounded shocked and started asking me about how this marriage could possibly work so I asked her if she'd ever heard of Mary Matalin and James Carville!

We always agree not to do yard signs or bumper stickers. But there is a Dem. donkey and a Rep. elephant ornament on our Christmas tree every year!

[Just Me]

Yep, we almost always vote the same. In fact, I can't think of a time when we voted differently...

[Martha]

I have no idea.
Although my dh and I often discuss politics and social issues, actual vote made is totally off limits.
Dh feels very strongly that all votes should be private in order for people to genuinely be free to make their own choice.
His response when asked who/what he voted is an adament, "None of your d**n business."
He gives the same answer when someone asks what politcal party he is affiliated with.:coolgleamA:

I just found out his politcal party 2 years ago!
I tease him all the time "Oh if only i'd known before we married!";)

[JFS in IL]

No always. Often we just cancel out each other's vote. ;)

[Dawn]

I vote the same as him if it's something I don't care about and he does.

I vote my conscience. If that means he votes one way on something that I vote another on, then we vote differently. :) We are both full US of A citizens and are able to exercise our individual opinions at the polls. :D

[Dawn]

Oh - but having said that....we usually always vote the same simply because we both have the same views on politics for the most part. It's typically the local measures and propositions that we may vary on at times.

[lwilliams1922]

nope

DH and i think on the same lines on almost areas BUT voting.

He's 20 yr military and I think the culture has him on one side.

I support and respect DH and the military but I differ on
some of the larger social issues.

[jpklehm]

We always vote the same way. I am fascinated by Mary Matalin and James Carville. There's NO WAY I could do that.


I love Mary but not so keen on James. You're right, though, what an interesting and stimulating marriage they must have! It would be fun to have dinner with them, don't you think? :001_smile:

My husband and I both usually vote in the same party, but have voted for different candidates in the primaries. We have differed in our votes in local decisions, too, but that's about it. We agree, mostly.

PAM

[jpklehm]

Oops, I'm showing my ignorance with how to use the icons here! I meant to have the first two lines of my post above be a quote from another poster, but obviously I got it wrong! Sorry!! I'll figure it out soon...
:confused:

PAM

[Krista in LA]

Well, yeah. I usually tell him who he should vote for. :lol:

Our values and lines of thinking are the same so he usually listens to me. ;) This election might be the first one we vote differently on as I am really leaning towards 3rd party and he might very well vote for one of the main candidates.

[PrairieAir]

We usually do vote the same, but neither of us would hold it against the other for voting differently. I asked dh who he was planning to vote for the other night because I wasn't 100% sure. He told me and expressed the same reasons and concerns that I have. There are some issues we don't agree on completely and I prefer not to talk about a few of them since he does become a bit frustrated that I don't see those things the same way. Those issues are few and far between though.

[RebeccaC]

Dh is from an ultra liberal family and he was that way when we got married. I am a conservative and have always been so. Shortly after we married dh became a believer and is the only believer in his family of origin. I am a big believer in winning dh not by my words but by actions and the prayer. This has been hard because it is not my nature :glare: So a combination of dh becoming a believer and my willingness to try and keep my mouth shut and pray has had an effect on dh.

Dh was pro-choice until we thought we had lost our oldest at 6 weeks in the pg. My doc was pro-life and before he would do the a D&C he did an ultrasound. Ddh saw our sons heart beating and in that moment became pro-life.

Dh and his mother tried to get me to vote democratic in the 90s and I just quietly said character matters. They pounded it did not. As dh watched what happened to the presidency in the 90s it made him sick. He changed from a democrat to republican in time for the 2000 election. He was for McCain I was not. He did vote republican but grudgingly in 2000 and since.

We have been married 19 years and this is the frist year that we both like the candidate and that we are getting bumper stickers for our car and truck. Dh tends to be a bit more libertarian in philosophy than I do but for the most part we are now on the same page.

[HappyatHome]

We vote the same 90% of the time, but I tend to get out and vote more that dh does.

[6packofun]

Yep, it usually works out that we see most things the same way. But neither of have any qualms about voting opposite of the other if it came to that.

[momtolgd]

Yes, DH and I generally agree when it comes to our political views. As far as I know, we've voted pretty much the same on everything since we have been together (over 9 years).

[Pam "SFSOM" in TN]

Just curious.


My dh and I are similar. Right now, we have some differing opinions. No more talking politics on date nights.:D


I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?



:bigear:

We often differ, and often vote for different people. But so far, no major friction over our differences has erupted. We'll be voting for different people this year, unless I can get him on the Obama train. Or unless the Obama train kicks me off for some unforeseen reason. Or if he's unable to find an independent candidate he can stand behind with his "protest" vote. We are both united about who we won't vote for, so I guess that's something. We don't discuss that much, though.

I remain amazed at Carville and Maitlin (sp?). The differences, keeping such a strong relationship -- it astounds me. I'm not sure I do that well in my marriage when we *agree* most of the time.

Those two keep me hopeful that someday Kelli and I will have grandchildren in common. :D

[Audrey]

Just curious.


My dh and I are similar. Right now, we have some differing opinions. No more talking politics on date nights.:D


I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?



:bigear:


Funny you ask as we have an election coming up in October here in Canada.

The answer is surely no. My DH votes ridiculously right-wing -- Liberal Party, and occasionally a slightly more acceptable NDP.

I vote either Marxist-Leninist or Communist. I see no point in pandering to the populist parties.

[ekarl2]

Mary Matalin's got her Ragin' Cajun, and I've got my Cranky Yankee! :)

My dh is never home when the Democrats call for $$ so I stop them right away to save them some time since they're not talking to the resident Democrat. One woman sounded shocked and started asking me about how this marriage could possibly work so I asked her if she'd ever heard of Mary Matalin and James Carville!

We always agree not to do yard signs or bumper stickers. But there is a Dem. donkey and a Rep. elephant ornament on our Christmas tree every year!


So here's my question about two-party households. Don't you find that your political leanings influence the way you live your life? Religion, child-rearing, finances, etc.? My husband and I are on the same page political, religiously, financially, etc. I can't imagine if our worldviews were polar opposites because we'd be in constant conflict over every day things, wouldn't we?

[Pam "SFSOM" in TN]

So here's my question about two-party households. Don't you find that your political leanings influence the way you live your life? Religion, child-rearing, finances, etc.? My husband and I are on the same page political, religiously, financially, etc. I can't imagine if our worldviews were polar opposites because we'd be in constant conflict over every day things, wouldn't we?

No way. As Plaid Dad said about Waxwing, we both believe passionately about the needs out there, but sometimes we differ on the roads that lead to filling those needs.

We are not in conflict 99% of the time. We have the same core values, the same child rearing views, the same general (and most specific) goals for our kids, agree about how to spend our resources and our time. (Or rather, we respect how the other spends time, so it works out.) For the greater part of our marriage, we have been "equally yoked" with regard to religion (or lack thereof) and certainly morally.

We occasionally are a one-party household. But since we both vote candidate instead of party, it can get criss-crossed on occasion. I can see us putting opposing candidate's bumper stickers on our car, actually.

Maybe because we talk things out? I don't know. But it works. Finding the points of agreement rather than the points of disagreement is important, though. Mutual dedication to the marriage (which trumps our dedication to one another) has also been helpful.

[WendyK]

My husband is not a citizen. We would probably vote similarly though.

[Just a Jen in Mississippi]

Dh and I always vote the same. I tend to get my husband motivated or inspired in the area of politics.

[tibbyl]

At least one of my kiddos will vote for the Socialist candidate, Brian Moore and his VP choice, Alexander something.

[Sammy]

No; as a matter of fact, we will surely "cancel each other out" on this one. He'll vote FOR McCain, and I'll vote AGAINST him.

[Cheryl in NM]

Just curious.


My dh and I are similar. Right now, we have some differing opinions. No more talking politics on date nights.:D


I've always been fascinated by James Carville and ....Mary Matlin? Is that right? Anyone here like them?



:bigear:


Dh and I used to differ. I was Conservative/Liberal and he was very conservative. Now he likes to say I'm more right wing than he is. We still agree on candidates, though, for now.

[laylamcb]

We often vote alike--but not always. Strangely, we tend to vote alike at the state and federal level and differently at the local level. I'll have to noodle on that one for a while.... :001_huh:

[tibbyl]

Funny you ask as we have an election coming up in October here in Canada.

The answer is surely no. My DH votes ridiculously right-wing -- Liberal Party, and occasionally a slightly more acceptable NDP.

I vote either Marxist-Leninist or Communist. I see no point in pandering to the populist parties.


Do the Marxist and Communists have trouble getting on the ballot in Canada?

About what percent of vote would the 2 parties combined command?

[Sammy]

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[fivetails]

As far as I know, dh has never voted in any kind of election... and I've only done it once....so I guess no, we don't "vote the same" ....:)

[Heather in the Kootenays]

My DH votes ridiculously right-wing -- Liberal Party, and occasionally a slightly more acceptable NDP.

I vote either Marxist-Leninist or Communist. I see no point in pandering to the populist parties.

I opened your post wondering who was ridiculously right-wing in Canada but I guess it's a matter of perspective. :D

You go - it helps keep the mainstream awake

[Heather in the Kootenays]

There are a large number of parties recognized by Elections Canada (12 or 13 right now). It isn't a difficult process- mostly lots of paperwork - organizational info, platform and the signatures of 250 electors.

The CP and the CPML typical get less than 1% of the popular vote combined.