hsmom
06-19-2008, 09:26 AM
This what it all started with. I was gearing up to buy a few things for school next year from here and other places. Then everything hit the fan. So, here I am having to back out of my word to everyone I was going to order from. (I am hoping I told everyone) Now I feel horrible, but everyday it just seems like all keeps stacking up more and more. So, I needed a quick vent if that is alright.
Last week my ds got pretty sick and we ended up in the hospital. He is better now.
My nephew (1 yrs old) went to the emergency room because he got into some pills, while my sister was sleeping. (quick brief on this, my sister (20yrs old) is having a problem getting he life together. She is living with my mom. My mom usually takes care of the baby, but she had to be at work. They live in Arkansas or I would help out) Well he had to have his stomach filled with charcoal and pumped. He is alright now and living with his dad.
Then we went to dh sisters house and her dh is having some problems. So, with them unable to pay for all of their car loans we told them we would take over one, if there was some way to get our name somewhere on the truck. So, there was not a liability issue. Well this still has not happened. To top it all off we gave them our word to help and come to find out they were 2 months behind and another payment is due by the 9th. This will make $1200 we have to put out by then. We already put $500 toward it, but don't know what to do. We thought and were under the impression we were just taking over payments, and we could afford that. But when you add in the late fees and past due payments it becomes wow! So, now we are stuck wondering where we are going to get a payment by tomorrow. I am just hoping the rebate check shows up today or tomorrow.
I just feel like giving it back to them and telling them this was not the deal and we cannot do it. Yet we gave them our word.:confused: What is a girl to do?
Also when we went to dh sisters house we found out that our nieces father (sil ex) which is still a friend of the family, was in the hospital brain dead. He was out riding his motor cycle and wrecked. My poor niece has had a hard time, with all of her loved ones dieing around her. Now to have her father basically dead she is flipping out.
So, after all that we went back home. Well we stopped at a friends of ours house and no one was home. Well no sooner did we walk in the door and we got a call from his wife that he died. What... I was shocked and confused. She said he had an abscessed tooth and the infection took over his body. He had went to the doctor a while ago and they pulled a tooth. Well he thought it was over. He was one of those people who have a very high tolerance for pain, and hates to go to the doctor. So, he ended up with flu like symptoms, head ache, upset stomach, all that. So, he did not think much of it, told his wife he did not feel good and was going to take a nap and that she needed to keep working on the wedding she was planning with her sister. (she was in the town next to us) Well his son came home to feed the cat and saw his dad on the floor, he was able to wake him up and ask what was wrong, his dad just told him he did not feel good and was lying down, well he called mom and they called 911. He made it a to one hospital then life flighted to another and died the following day. He was only 39!
We went to his funeral yesterday. Dh was a pallbearer.
The wife is going to come home today, I told her that if she needed anything to just ask. We have loaned her my car (theirs is not reliable). Helped with bills and what not. (even though we cannot figure out where ours are going to come from, but we will survive. Her dh was the sole provider of their home)
Also yesterday ds 11 went to his urologist and he has surgery on the June 30. (he had a testicle that did not drop). We did not know that this would cause problems, he doctor for years has told us it will happen on its own. Well the urologist, says this should have been taken care of years ago. Well ds is nervous. They have to go in and make sure there is not a hernia, which I guess is common in cases like his. Also they have to see if the testicle has cancer. Which is also common when one is left "up" like that for too long. We are hoping that all is well and he will be alright.
Yet in a way he is more worried about not being able to ride his bike for 2 weeks after surgery. Leave it to my son. He loves his bike.
Well now that is all that has happened. It so seems like to much over load for my family and I right now. So, today ds 11 is gearing up to go visit his dad for 9 days before he has surgery. Dh is back at work for a week. So, ds 3 and I are going to go find something fun to do to get our minds off everything right now. :001_smile:
Thank you all for listening I really needed it.
Last week my ds got pretty sick and we ended up in the hospital. He is better now.
My nephew (1 yrs old) went to the emergency room because he got into some pills, while my sister was sleeping. (quick brief on this, my sister (20yrs old) is having a problem getting he life together. She is living with my mom. My mom usually takes care of the baby, but she had to be at work. They live in Arkansas or I would help out) Well he had to have his stomach filled with charcoal and pumped. He is alright now and living with his dad.
Then we went to dh sisters house and her dh is having some problems. So, with them unable to pay for all of their car loans we told them we would take over one, if there was some way to get our name somewhere on the truck. So, there was not a liability issue. Well this still has not happened. To top it all off we gave them our word to help and come to find out they were 2 months behind and another payment is due by the 9th. This will make $1200 we have to put out by then. We already put $500 toward it, but don't know what to do. We thought and were under the impression we were just taking over payments, and we could afford that. But when you add in the late fees and past due payments it becomes wow! So, now we are stuck wondering where we are going to get a payment by tomorrow. I am just hoping the rebate check shows up today or tomorrow.
I just feel like giving it back to them and telling them this was not the deal and we cannot do it. Yet we gave them our word.:confused: What is a girl to do?
Also when we went to dh sisters house we found out that our nieces father (sil ex) which is still a friend of the family, was in the hospital brain dead. He was out riding his motor cycle and wrecked. My poor niece has had a hard time, with all of her loved ones dieing around her. Now to have her father basically dead she is flipping out.
So, after all that we went back home. Well we stopped at a friends of ours house and no one was home. Well no sooner did we walk in the door and we got a call from his wife that he died. What... I was shocked and confused. She said he had an abscessed tooth and the infection took over his body. He had went to the doctor a while ago and they pulled a tooth. Well he thought it was over. He was one of those people who have a very high tolerance for pain, and hates to go to the doctor. So, he ended up with flu like symptoms, head ache, upset stomach, all that. So, he did not think much of it, told his wife he did not feel good and was going to take a nap and that she needed to keep working on the wedding she was planning with her sister. (she was in the town next to us) Well his son came home to feed the cat and saw his dad on the floor, he was able to wake him up and ask what was wrong, his dad just told him he did not feel good and was lying down, well he called mom and they called 911. He made it a to one hospital then life flighted to another and died the following day. He was only 39!
We went to his funeral yesterday. Dh was a pallbearer.
The wife is going to come home today, I told her that if she needed anything to just ask. We have loaned her my car (theirs is not reliable). Helped with bills and what not. (even though we cannot figure out where ours are going to come from, but we will survive. Her dh was the sole provider of their home)
Also yesterday ds 11 went to his urologist and he has surgery on the June 30. (he had a testicle that did not drop). We did not know that this would cause problems, he doctor for years has told us it will happen on its own. Well the urologist, says this should have been taken care of years ago. Well ds is nervous. They have to go in and make sure there is not a hernia, which I guess is common in cases like his. Also they have to see if the testicle has cancer. Which is also common when one is left "up" like that for too long. We are hoping that all is well and he will be alright.
Yet in a way he is more worried about not being able to ride his bike for 2 weeks after surgery. Leave it to my son. He loves his bike.
Well now that is all that has happened. It so seems like to much over load for my family and I right now. So, today ds 11 is gearing up to go visit his dad for 9 days before he has surgery. Dh is back at work for a week. So, ds 3 and I are going to go find something fun to do to get our minds off everything right now. :001_smile:
Thank you all for listening I really needed it.