How would you handle this

[hpymomof3]

This year my dd is going to a private high school with no bus service. My dh drives her to school in the morning and I usually pick her up in the afternoon. Last fall we got a call from a mom who lives in our subdivision. Her dd goes to the same school. Both parents work and have no way to bring their dd home a few days a week. The older sister brings her home a few days a week. It has worked out fine and I'm happy to help out.

A few days before the end of Christmas break I got a call from another parent asking if I could bring their dd home too. They don't live in our subdivision but only live 5 minutes away. It was awkward to say no so I agreed to do it. Most of the time it isn't a big deal but once a week I need to get home for dd's piano lesson. Last time she was dawdling at school and I ended up having to drop my dd off and then go back out of the subdivision to bring this girl home. Again this isn't a huge deal but annoying. Today after school my dd called me on her cell phone to tell me that she couldn't find the girl. She finally went to the office and found out that the girl left an hour ago because of an orthodontist appointment. How do I handle this? I know that it would probably be a pain for the parents to have to call me any time their dd won't be coming home with us but I don't feel like waiting around an extra 15 minutes either.

I feel that the parents and the girl are being inconsiderate but I have never even met these people in person. I like to help people out when I can but I feel taken advantage of.

[mcconnellboys]

I'd bow out. My time is too valuable for others to keep me waiting without so much as a word.....

Regena

[Karen sn]

Wake up! I'm sorry. But these people are RUDE or just stupid!!!!!! I just can't imagine not telling you about the ortho apt or just making you wait for me as a teenager!!! When I was a kid - we were there when they expected us.....PERIOD! We never made the adults wait - it's just rude and totally unacceptable.
Are they even giving you gas money?
I seriously have learned how to say NO to people because we have to put our families first. You can't be miss nice mom to everyonelse's kids all the time.
You should really talk to the kid's parents and explain the situation of your dd's piano lessons - and that you can't sit around and wait when she's not even there.

[Cadam]

no way, it is not to much of a pain for the parents to call you if their dd is not coming home with you. That is the basics of human polite behavior. I would call and just politely say that there seemed to be a communication problem and that you will need a phone call anytime their dd will not being riding with you. Also you will leave the school at x time wether their dd is in the car or not. It is her responsibility to be there and you can just kindly explain that you have appointments after school so you must leave at x time, after which you will assume she has another way home.

I bet she will miss your ride once or twice and then her parents will get really tired of being called at work to pick her up and she will either be respectful and get her bu** out to the car, or find a different ride.

[j.griff]

This is what I would do too.

[Suzanne in ABQ]

I "third" this advice. Yes, do everything "Cadam" said.