I feel so guilty...

[Ohio12]

dh's aunt comes into town 4-5 times a year. she always gives the dds a bunch of clothes from Kohl's and Target mostly..sometimes Children's Place. Anyway, some of it is not my taste and some of it does not fit. Some is really cute and I am glad to have it. Anyway, I always take half of it back and get store credit. I just got back from Kohl's with $37 worth of store credit and I always feel SO guilty. I think if she ever found out, she would be horrified. Anyone else have this situation? Should I stop returning it? :confused:

[JFS in IL]

Oh, she is enjoying the shopping or she would not do it - and you say you do keep some of the clothes, so Auntie will see the kids wearing some of what she bought, and be happy. Go ahead and return the rest - beats leaving it in the closet, unworn, and if you can then pick out clothes you'd prefer the kids to wear, Auntie's $$$ is not going to waste.

[Elaine]

dh's aunt comes into town 4-5 times a year. she always gives the dds a bunch of clothes from Kohl's and Target mostly..sometimes Children's Place. Anyway, some of it is not my taste and some of it does not fit. Some is really cute and I am glad to have it. Anyway, I always take half of it back and get store credit. I just got back from Kohl's with $37 worth of store credit and I always feel SO guilty. I think if she ever found out, she would be horrified. Anyone else have this situation? Should I stop returning it? :confused:

Well, you should not feel guilty about not having the same taste as her.:001_smile: Maybe you could find a way of telling her that the clothes are not always your taste outside of the situation. Maybe before she visits next time say something like, "We really love the clothes and appreciate your generosity. As the kids are getting older, their tastes are changing. Maybe we could shop together when you come or maybe you could give the kids gift cards and that would help them understand how far money goes."

I think telling her when she gives you the clothes might make her upset, but telling her away from the situation might be easier.

Good luck, I know it's hard when you don't want to hurt someone's feelings.:)

[jail warden]

Don't feel bad, she leaves and will never know. She feels good that she's helping you out and really she is, because even if you would return everything it is helping you out because you can buy other stuff. My MIL buys the kids stuff and there are times it is soooo bad that I return it. I would offend her deeply if I told her I didn't like it and she feels so good giving to us.

[Ohio12]

Thanks everyone. I do think she LOVES the shopping. The one thing I have thought to tell her is that the girls don't wear dressed very often. Our church is very casual and they are both active girls. Plus in the winter, dresses mean I have to buy tights and shoes that will work with the dresses.:tongue_smilie:

[Jennifer in MI]

Oh no. Don't feel guilty!! Tastes differ and that's okay! I do this all the time with my MIL and I'm grateful for the money to spend on my style of clothing after she leaves!!

[Ginger]

I had this problem too...until I was banned from returning anything to Target anymore without a reciept. Actaully, I think that is there store policy now. But several years ago, my grandmother would buy so many clothes there, and I would end up taking half of it back...that they stopped letting me return things there. That was embarassing!