To go or not to go, that is the question

[Mom2legomaniacs]

Here's the deal. My first cousin is getting married in Beaver Creek, Colorado. It is way too expensive for all of us to even consider going. Especially in light of recent hikes in things anyway. I *could* go, but it would still be a bit pricey. I would have to drive about 2 1/2 hours to the departing airport. Then, the arriving airport is about 2 1/2 hours from the destination. So a total of 10 hours driving along with flight times and such. Then, the rooms there are really expensive. My mom has booked a suite for all of us to stay in should we be able to go.

The best ticket situation is for me to travel from a THurs to Sun., I believe. But the tickets would be on an airline that has declared bankruptcy. My instincts say to bow out of this one. But I know my mom and sister would love for me to be there with them. I am a close to home gal. I do not like to travel or to spend that kind of money on travel. The whole weekend would cost a fair bit both in time and money. Plus, Dh would have to take a couple of days off (not a big deal though).


I guess, I am feeling like a letdown to others if I don't go. I am also not sure that booking tickets on airlines right now is all that good. But what do I know, really.

So, given those circumstances and my natural tendencies, what do say about the situation? Is it okay that I not go? (please be gentle with me;))

[JFS in IL]

If the others want you there...could they help pay for it? And pick you up/take you to the distant airport? The logistics just sound unfeasible.

[Mom2legomaniacs]

If the others want you there...could they help pay for it? And pick you up/take you to the distant airport? The logistics just sound unfeasible.

The money is really not a huge issue. We are just very careful about spending that kind of money on things like that. We have a car that needs replacing in the near future (not sure when). And some house issues that need addressing. Money really isn't the issue in the sense that we don't have it. We are just much more practical and frugal about spending in that way, kwim?

THere are no other family members around here to share travel with. And given our vehicle situation, it wouldn't be me driving a vehicle to leave at the airport, it would be DH driving me there to drop off and then pick up. And on the other end, not really sure about the logistics of arriving and getting to the destination. I just think the logistics are way too complicated for me to feel like dealing with. I would love to be there. But getting there is so convoluted and crazy that I don't feel like I want to do that.

[Oak Knoll Mom]

*I* would do it because I am close to my family and wouldn't mind spending the time and money to see them--especially if I could really relax without my kids in tow.

But, you can't live your life doing things you don't want to do just to please others. It sounds like you don't want to go, but I would encourage you to look past some of the details you've mentioned and ask yourself, "Would I enjoy this trip?" Don't get so caught up in all the reasons not to go that you don't consider the fun you might have while there.

[Mom2legomaniacs]

Don't get so caught up in all the reasons not to go that you don't consider the fun you might have while there.

Good point to consider. I tend to look for the reasons *not* to do things sometimes as an excuse for really not wishing to participate or go. I will definitely look deeper and see what I can find for positives. Thanks for bringing up this point. I appreciate that!

[Remudamom]

I'm very close to my mom and two sisters, and I still refuse to go with them to New York City. Doesn't appeal to me. If it offends them, so be it, they should know me well enough to not nag me about it.

[Mom2legomaniacs]

I'm very close to my mom and two sisters, and I still refuse to go with them to New York City. Doesn't appeal to me. If it offends them, so be it, they should know me well enough to not nag me about it.

True too. Mine seem to think they need to "get me out of here" and that "it would do me good". Geesh, I think I am doing okay as I am. Nobody is holding be back or keeping me here except me! I *like* my home. I *want* to stay here with my kids. I don't know why they think I need to "get away". Truly, I am fine. Ask Pam, she has seen me at my home. Pam, am I nutso? (wait, don't answer that ;))

[UnPrairieMuffin]

to go! There is something about being present at family functions that goes a long way in terms of meaning. My husband and I have gone out of our way several times to go to funerals, and the effort has always been appreciated.

If money really isn't a concern except for some vague "we mights," then I would definitely make plans to go. Your house will always need repairs and the car will always need something, but your first cousin only gets married once. Go for it!

[Jennifer in MI]

Quite honestly, making a flight arrangement on an airline that has declared bankruptcy would make me quite nervous! It sounds like you want to go, but the logistics are holding you back.

Have you thought about driving out as a family? My family always drives places and we always have a blast! In fact, we drove out to Copper Mountain, CO for a wedding last summer. What a GORGEOUS drive! And, CO is breathtakingly beautiful. Anyway, just take your time getting there and back and do fun stuff along the way.

Just thought I'd throw out another option!

[lynn]

If you get to see family and friends you haven't seen in a while go and enjoy. I love going to visit family which I don't do often enough but it's so much fun when I do get to go home to Mass. and be with family even for a few hours.