dd is refusing to go to school again

[Cadam]

It is just so frustrating and I don't know what to do. I can no longer physically force her and taking away privileges doesn't work. Sometimes she goes off to school happily, then there are days like this!

I don't really have a question, I am just frustrated.

[WordGirl]

Is it possible she's being bullied or teased?

[HistoryMom]

I have no answers, just sympathy. I also wonder what her reasons are. Is this out of the ordinary for her? Does she often refuse to do other things?

[Cadam]

Is it possible she's being bullied or teased?

no

I have no answers, just sympathy. I also wonder what her reasons are. Is this out of the ordinary for her? Does she often refuse to do other things?

Not out of the ordinary. She has an alphabet soup of diagnosis and no one has been able to figure it out yet. Being oppositional is just part of the package. It started this morning with not wanting to shower.

[fairytalemama]

:grouphug:
I think we all have our challenges. My 3 year old literally runs the other way at any mention of using the potty and my 5 year old ripped off her shirt on the playground at school this afternoon because she felt hot (it's only in the mid 50s here). Luckily, I was still there to insist on some level of modesty. Oh and did I mention that the 3 year old covered himself with postage stamps this morning while I was in the shower?

Hang in there!

[Cadam]

:grouphug:
I think we all have our challenges. My 3 year old literally runs the other way at any mention of using the potty and my 5 year old ripped off her shirt on the playground at school this afternoon because she felt hot (it's only in the mid 50s here). Luckily, I was still there to insist on some level of modesty. Oh and did I mention that the 3 year old covered himself with postage stamps this morning while I was in the shower?

Hang in there!

My 4 yo did the postage stamp thing. There were flowers on them and so she thought they were "pretty stickers". :lol:

[lisamarie]

My DD5 tells me every morning that she is not going to school that day. I thought that she really disliked school until it came out that school isn't the problem. When I asked if she liked HSing better, she said "No. I don't like ANY school. I don't want to do any school anymore." It's made me a lot less sympathetic to her plight.

Most mornings it is a real chore to get her to the bus stop. It usually involves a lot of pouting and whining. I agree that it really wears a body down.

[Irishmommy]

My son has the tendency toward the oppositional as well, so when he started this in K, I wasn't really sympathetic. As the year progressed, I sensed more and more problems than he could articulate. The year as a whole was horrible, we pulled him out at the end of that year, but should have probably at semester. Live and learn I guess. I would really examine the why behind it. Have a conference with her teacher and see if she has some remedies for the issues. Maybe a special job from the teacher each morning might help. Positive reinforcement almost ALWAYS works for my ODD son.

[betty]

if you can't find a reason like bullying or problems with transitions through out the school day that the teacher is not addressing, do you think she would respond to a behavior chart? You said she won't respond to taking away privileges. How about giving her something? X days in a row without a complaint gets a treat, Y days in a row a bigger treat.

I think you've homeschooled up to this year. It may take her a while to get used to it. Especially, if she has some quirkiness in her response to her environment.

[MeganP]

Have you spoken with anyone at the school? I have a friend here who had a terrible time getting her ds to go to school when he was around 10-11yo. She spoke with the school and they sent a counselor to the house to deal with it. I don't know details, but I think it helped. And when he moved up to senior school (middle school age for an American) he was fine with going to school. So maybe your dd will 'outgrow' it too. I would speak with someone at the school, though, and see if they can help.

[Cadam]

Thanks guys, it's really just her issues, which are working on with the dr. When those things are under control she goes to school just fine.

[HayesW]

I'm sorry. I wish it were easy everyday! Wouldn't it be great to be a TV family, where everyone smiles and hugs and does what they are asked? I hope tomorrow is better!

[christine in al]

regarding the tv family.

but to original poster. good luck.
get some bath salts for yourself and have a soak when you get her out the door.

~c in AL.