Vent--

[Citrusheights5]

Just a vent from an occasional lurker..

It has been a week since we moved to the mountains, and it all seams to be too much. I love my house.. I love the area. It has just been one thing after another.
Day one... My oven handle broke clean off. I mean come on!!! I was making pizza for my father and friends who helped us moved and it broke off in my hand.
Day two. I ran the tub and turned on the jets and just sank in. I love love loved my tub. I put some bubbles in and had the kids run through it when my two year old broke the faucet off. :smash:
Day three.. We venture out to find food.. Everyone here is SOOOO nice.. A man waved as we drove off and DH was convinced someone was flipping him off ( someone was just shot in the face 2 blocks from where we moved from the day before). IT took 3 more waves before DH believed it.

Poison Oak is everywhere... Dishwasher is not working properly.. Washer and Dryer that came with the place did not work at all. (We switched them out with ours.) Propane was not working (had to have the other really nice guy out to fix it)-so no heat or hot water for a few days. (yeah not so simple when you never used one)

DH wanted the kids to go to school so they could meet other kids. It is only a few months until the end of the year so I agreed. They of course are loving it. It is only day 2 but they are just so excited and happy about the school. Then today my baby.. my 4 year old went to preschool. It is 3 days a week for a few hours.. but ... but.. my house is so empty.... I only have my 2 year old and 2 mo old.. it is just ... too... quiet...

I regularly had 11 kids between mine, friends, neighbors, who would play at my house.. most, if not all, loud rambunctious boys- except for my DD. The silence.. is.. just.. too.. much..

If you read this far.. thanks.. I just had to say this out loud.. My friends would all tell me I told you so..although I love being out here, and DH would feel guilty..

Lee
Mom to 6
11dd
10ds
9ds
4ds
2ds
2month ds

[mommaduck]

Hugs to you, hon! That is rough...especially the almost empty, quiet house bit. I could handle the rest, but not the quiet house. Take the time to enjoy your babies though, pick a hobby (family garden, etc), and perhaps just really prepare for when the kids are home (cookies!) and just be there for them :)

[Chris in VA]

Oh, I feel for ya, Sweetie. Sometimes little things going wrong can just be overwhelming, esp when they come on top of the stress of the big things. Hang in there. Rest in your decision--I'm sure it was made with much deliberation and prudence.

School can be a good option--but you are mourning a loss, and that's truly ok. Think of it this way--although your ego might feel good if your kids hated school, your heart would be torn if they were miserable. It's just for a little while.

Sending you hugs.

[Tatt2mama]

I'm sorry that you're having such a rough time. In time, I'm sure you'll grow to love your new place. And school isn't for too much longer, and then everyone will be home for the summer (with lots of friends, probably!). Maybe you can focus on doing stuff in the house and spending time with the two little ones to get you through til then?

I wish you lots and lots of luck!

[tuckabella]

HUGS HUGS HUGS
Perhaps you could have more 1 on 1 time with your two younger children, we all know that they grow so fast!

[DIY-DY]

Change is hard. Change with so many things breaking off in your hand is even harder. Wowsa! But I'm w/ mamaduck. I think the quiet house, though, would be my undoing. I'm so sorry.

Perhaps you could use this quiet time to explore with the littles, bone up on basic home repair, and invite the next Very Nice Fix-It Person for coffee and muffins. I'll admit that when I moved once to a new place and wasn't handling the change well, my Very Nice Bug Spray Guy became my most favorite person in the world (of course, he was also eradicating my home of critters I wasn't accustomed to having, which probably helped, LOL!)

Practice the casual, one-hand wave to strangers.

Pick flowers. Share them with somebody.

Bake something for the kids for when they get home from school (I'm guessing the handle is back on the oven, right?)

Soon, it won't all feel so foreign, so new, so unfamiliar. Soon, pretty much everything that's due to break will have been fixed. In the meantime, don't be hard on yourself for feeling like it's one wave after another crashing over your head. It's okay to admit that, embrace it, and remember that it won't last forever. And vent here when you need to. We understand.

{{{hugs}}}

[JFS in IL]

that is what we are here for. :grouphug: (No - should be "That is for what we are here." No - still not right. Whatever. Hubby once worked for a guy who insisted it was "To go boldly..." not "To boldly go...") I digress.

[Citrusheights5]

Thank you ladies...

I woke up this morning and bustled about preparing everyone for school. Now everyone is gone and I am here with the babies. Your posts have really put things into perspective. I have so much I can do with my 2 year old.

Now to unpack some good CD's to drown out the silence... Who knew that the sound of bickering and playing would be missed so deeply. (The two that are home are not criers and just generally quite.)

Lee
(:auto: ) for my Nate who wanted to see it
mom to 6
11dd
10ds
9ds
4ds
2ds
2monthds

[LG Gone Wild]

We did a mountain move. We moved in, no hot water and there were mice. Then the pipes froze and we woke up to record snow. Then there was getting the propane stuff set up and the house certified. Then there was the endless search for wood for our stove (we got our propane bill, switched to wood). Then there were the mice. Then there was the cat crapping and peeing in the house because it was afraid to go outside. Then there was the dog that kept escaping the new yard. Then there were the mice. Then it was the post office that had great difficulty getting our mailbox key correct. Then there were the record rains which made the roads perilous with mud and ice.

I hate living in the mountains.

[PrairieAir]

I bet it feels more quiet and lonely than it normally would with the kids being away since you are in a new place. It might take a little time to get into the groove of this new place and the new ways of doing things. Open yourself up to the change. Embrace it. Get involved in the community if you want something to do and can figure out a way. Get out and meet neighbors at the library or the local diner or the school. Put on a friendly face and practice that wave and it won't be long before you feel at home.:grouphug:

[Pencil Pusher]

Just a vent from an occasional lurker..

It has been a week since we moved to the mountains, and it all seams to be too much. I love my house.. I love the area. It has just been one thing after another.
Day one... My oven handle broke clean off. I mean come on!!! I was making pizza for my father and friends who helped us moved and it broke off in my hand.
Day two. I ran the tub and turned on the jets and just sank in. I love love loved my tub. I put some bubbles in and had the kids run through it when my two year old broke the faucet off. :smash:
Day three.. We venture out to find food.. Everyone here is SOOOO nice.. A man waved as we drove off and DH was convinced someone was flipping him off ( someone was just shot in the face 2 blocks from where we moved from the day before). IT took 3 more waves before DH believed it.

Poison Oak is everywhere... Dishwasher is not working properly.. Washer and Dryer that came with the place did not work at all. (We switched them out with ours.) Propane was not working (had to have the other really nice guy out to fix it)-so no heat or hot water for a few days. (yeah not so simple when you never used one)

DH wanted the kids to go to school so they could meet other kids. It is only a few months until the end of the year so I agreed. They of course are loving it. It is only day 2 but they are just so excited and happy about the school. Then today my baby.. my 4 year old went to preschool. It is 3 days a week for a few hours.. but ... but.. my house is so empty.... I only have my 2 year old and 2 mo old.. it is just ... too... quiet...

I regularly had 11 kids between mine, friends, neighbors, who would play at my house.. most, if not all, loud rambunctious boys- except for my DD. The silence.. is.. just.. too.. much..

If you read this far.. thanks.. I just had to say this out loud.. My friends would all tell me I told you so..although I love being out here, and DH would feel guilty..

Lee
Mom to 6
11dd
10ds
9ds
4ds
2ds
2month ds

That's just sad. Seriously. :grouphug:

[Barb F. PA in AZ]

When I was crying over breastfeeding and learning the parenting ropes with my first child, my mom told me something that would stick with me the rest of my life. It takes three months to get used to anything. Prior to that three months, give yourself permission to hate your new lifestyle at times. Mourn what you've lost and wallow some days. Keep telling yourself, "I will not expect to begin to like it here for 3 months." It really works. Now, it will take closer to a year to really begin to feel at home, but the despair should magically wane if you give it no more effort than a little time.

Barb