Please help me think of retribution for my 6 yo son....

[SandraDumas]

He was convicted about secret sins during devotions this morning and confessed to us and the Lord that he has been secretly stealing his little sister's necklaces and breaking them, because he doesn't like girlie things, he says. It's so sad! They were her Christmas present and he has broken several of them.

I don't want to make him pay for them because that has been his easy fix for 2 separate incidences this month. He stole her night light and lost it and then just paid for the damage. When he confessed about the necklaces, he just offered to pay for new ones. But that money is his Disney money we've been saving for five months. He can't keep doing wrong things and taking the money out of there.

I could make him help her make a new bead necklace today but that doesn't seem like it's hard enough. Is the goal to have him make it up to her, or to make him feel the difficulty he faces?

[angela in ohio]

He can be her servant.

What should have stopped him from breaking them was knowing it would hurt her, but it didn't. He needs to change his heart toward her, and he can practice by having to think about her needs constantly for awhile. I think she should also express to him how she feels about having her necklaces broken.

[SandraDumas]

nt

[Heather in the Kootenays]

Could he pay for them without resorting to his saved money - be given specific chores to cover the value? I've also heard kids cleaning their siblings rooms as penance for something like that.

[Cadam]

He needs to do acts of service for her. Put him to work but let him know that you are proud he is becoming a person of integrity and had the courage to tell the truth, that is a very hard thing.

[Danestress]

I think the crux of the matter here is that he is dishonoring the feminine. He is breaking things because he doesn't like girl things. He's showing a disrespect for what is girlish.

I would try to make him do something that honors her and honors her girlness. Obviously not something embarrassing for him. You want him to be proud of his boyness but have to teach him that being a boy and being rough and tumble doesn't mean putting down what is female. You don't want to raise a boy who has an attitude that feminine is bad, and you don't want his sister to be subjected to that kind of attitude in a brother.

Maybe make him buy her new necklaces and write a letter about what is good about having a sister. Maybe take him out to buy some flowers for her? Have him serve her in some other way?