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choirfarm
03-25-2008, 07:00 AM
This is a spin-off of the difficult questions thread. I, too, am in my 40's and really struggle with the energy, stamina to keep up with this lifestyle. I have 7th and 5th grade boys and a K girl. This is my 5th year of homeschooling and though easier in some ways (We had major illiness of various relatives with different ones living with us my first two years...what a way to start!) it has been very difficult homeschooling-wise this year. Am I doing what is right for all of my children? Am I really giving them the best education?? And my 5th grader has fallen through the cracks a bit. My oldest is extremely self-motivated and is doing Algebra I and Physical Science well this year. I am using TT Algebra this year, but now I've heard it isn't rigerous enough, so should I change in midstream??? He is very bright and is already past me in many areas. His writing has really improved this year and he has gotten quite good at the essay part of the exams I make up for TOG. Next year he will do Biology labs at the co-op and they are still deciding the schedule, but this year he had a really hard time keeping up with co-op: Texas History, Speech and writing in addition to all of the stuff I gave him. But I NEED the science labs... I cannot do them. He is also gifted in computers and I can't find a class he can take. A few people have suggested having him go to the college, but he is turning 13 this week, and I don't feel comfortable with that. Nor would he. He is EXTREMELY shy. In fact, I sometime wonder if he should go to ps to FORCE him to interact. In kindergarten they put him in speech because he whispered and wouldn't talk to anyone, but eventually he did by the end of the year. He actually skipped speech class once this year because he really didn't want to give his speech. One of the few times he has ever done anything wrong. After severe punishment, apologizing to his teacher he had to give that speech and and oral speech for his Texas history class.

Although my 7th grader can and does work independently, my 5th grader is your typical boy. He loves people and misses school and likes co-op. His classes have been fluffy and no outside work, though. I have to constantly check on him to make sure the work is done, and sometimes I forget and don't realize he hasn't done x for a week. He HATES math and he and I were getting so frustrated yesterday. I couldn't get him to understand about borrowing from fractions 10 - 4 3/4 as an example. To me, that is so incredibly easy. I don't know how to teach it... I kept showing him that you borrow and then turn it into an equivilent fraction...anyway. We finally put it away. He is a voracious reader and writes quite well. He read Lord of the Rings again this year. Science has been the forgotton subject. It is hard not doing it together with his brother and it has been haphazard stuff I've found. He had already done the elementary Apologia they were doing at Co-op. He isll read anything, but written work is another thing.. He is just average at math, which makes him feel stupid compared to his brother.. I'm thinking Algebra as a 9th grader for him. He feels very stupid compared to his brother, but their gifts are just different. He has much more athletic talent.

Then there is my K girl. Very social and a constant talker. I spend maybe and hour teaching her. We concentrate on phonics, handwriting and math. We made it through the Singapore earlybird and are currently doing 1A, but I don't do math with her everyday. It has been unschooling a lot with her and math. She will bring me coins and we'll play and talk about what they are. She asks me about what time it is and we will play with her clock. We probably do some out of the workbooks 2 days a week. I've never taught anyone how to read and it seems incredibly slow and painful. I keep thinking...you just read that word...don't you just know it by site. She can read cvc words and I will be introducing the silent e next week. But much of the day she entertains herself while I am doing TOG with the older ones. Boy..she would have loved all the interaction and playtime in traditional kindergarten...

So I bounce between the very different children...trying to give them what they need and dh says, "if you put them in school you would have more time for the things you want to do.." I don't even remember what that is anymore!! My whole life has become church and homeschooling.
And ps...yes my other question was rhetorical. It just seemed like everyone was saying college was bad and don't plan on in the other thread. I am the "stupid" on on both sides as I only have a bachelor's degree with no masters or other advanced degree (med or law) like everyone else on both sides. Most are teachers or college administrators, department chairs at colleges, etc.

Christine

Soph the vet
03-25-2008, 08:02 AM
Hi Christine,
I really appreciated your honest post. I am forty now and my kids are 4th, 2nd, and Prek. To address the "energy" I force myself to stay active physically. I do not work out. But I play one team sport every season to fool myself into thinking I am physically still in my twenties :001_smile:. Believe me there is plenty of sitting and eating chocolate that happens too.
I had a couple of thoughts for you and take them what they are worth as I tend to have an opinion on everything, given enough time.
Your 7th grader, I would not put him in ps to "force interaction" as it may do just the opposite of what you intend. I was very shy in middle school, we moved in the MIDDLE of 7th grade, and it was extremely traumatic. High school was hard but then I emerged from my shell in college. He may just need more time and a few close friends. My pastor stuttered in college every time he gave a "sermon" and today he is a forceful and inspiring preacher (Piper), so you never know. The Speech class sounds like a good thing for your son.
Your 5th grader, maybe switch math programs. That is what I have always heard from those who are far beyond where I am in school. It may be he just needs a different approach to learning math.
One last important thought regarding teachers who know their material. I agree that when we went to ps (in the 70's and 80's), science teachers had been science majors, and history teachers had been history majors, etc. Today, the majority of teachers have education degrees and know more methods than material. So are they really ahead of where we are as homeschoolers?
Also, this is a season. You only have four or five years with your oldest left. It goes so fast. I have to keep reminding myself that this is the best investment of my time right now. I will have plenty of time later (Lord willing) to pursue other interests.
Just some thoughts.

choirfarm
03-25-2008, 08:12 AM
My dad is another energy drainer. He is wheelchair bound pretty much with severe COPD..cannot walk more than a few steps without being totally out of breath, on oxygen 24/7. He never recovered from his broken femur (had to live with us for 6 months during my 2nd year of homeschooling) My daughter and I go to his house while the boys are at piano for 2 hours and take him to Wal-mart, get his haircut, etc. We take him to church and to all doctor appointments. That is another thing that frustrates me...trying to get school done with doctor's appointments, dentist, car inspections or getting tires aligned, mammograms, etc in addition to sports, music, etc. Sigh...