What is your biggest pet peeve.

[lynn]

Mine parents that don't really "see" their kids or deny that they are the ones causing problems. case inpoint. My neighbor is always complaining about the older kids and their attitude and language. Her oldest is in 4th grade I had him over for a couple hours for my sons birthday party and guess who had the biggest attitude and what I would call "sneaky" bad language.

[debbiec]

smacking gum

[AprilTN]

My pet peeve is when someone tells me that they are outspoken. Recently I've had two fairly new friends tell me that. They both said in different words that they "speak their mind" and that's just the way they are. It's like they are telling me in advance so that they can just say whatever they want to say.

It just is annoying.

[Parabola]

People who try to get on an elevator without first letting the people who wish to exit do so.
Not only is it rude and thoughtless, but the sheer impracticality of it provokes a comment from me every single time.

[Jennifer in NH]

The slang word "ain't" and basically all profanity.

[True Blue]

When I search online for an innocent subject and it brings up porn.

[pixelroper]

"um" every other word (the only strike I have against LCI DVD's)
"cause" instead of b/c, and "seen" with out a helping verb.

I know that's three: I hope no one's peeve is getting more than one answer to a one answer question. :D

[Momto4kids]

Mine is similar to the outspoken one above. I hate when someone says taht is just who I am or that is how they are and have been all of their life.

Example: My mother inlaw and how thoughtless, tactless, says everything and anything that pops in her head without thinking about it. I hate when she or my FIL or my dh says "that is how she's always been she's been like that for over 50 years and you can't change it" in a deal with it kind of voice. To me it is just an excuse to expalin away bad behavior.

And no you can't change it but you certainly don't have take it either.

[Deece in MN]

Shopping carts left all over the parking lot (I know some people have reasons such as young children with them, etc., but it still annoys me).

People who use the drive-up window at the bank to do major banking (something that is more than a quick deposit, withdraw or check cashing type thing).

Yes, using the "word" ain't.

People who give "gifts" with strings attached.

I try not to let the little things bug me and I really don't dwell on any of these things or get upset over them, but I usually do have to make a comment when I see/hear/experience these things and then I can let it go. :)

[Amy loves Bud]

Do not put your stuff on the kitchen counter. Not your book, not your Legos, not your keys and wallet, not your shoes:blink:, and NOT THE NEIGHBOR'S TREE FROG.:ack2:

[Jenny in Atl]

Rude drivers...

[Deece in MN]

"um" every other word (the only strike I have against LCI DVD's)
"cause" instead of b/c, and "seen" with out a helping verb.

I know that's three: I hope no one's peeve is getting more than one answer to a one answer question. :D

Well, it obviously doesn't bother me because I listed 4 (and I am sure there are others that I am not thinking of right now). :D
I guess I don't follow directions well, though I could say that the four I listed tie for my biggest pet peeve. ;)

[JudoMom]

Gum smacking, chip crunching, and chewing with your mouth open,

The non-word 'puter,

and

know-it-alls.

[j.griff]

People judging other people.

[Carol in Cal.]

Outside:
1. People who lie to or especially about people to cause them problems.
2. Adults who ask children starting when they are very young whether they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and take an avid interest in the results as though that is all there is in life or as though they even should be thinking that way at that age...

Inside:
People who think that when I clean a surface completely of all clutter that that is basically a plea for them to come and fill it. Immediately. With whatever is in their pockets, the mailbox, the truck. Whatever. As though an emptied surface is the type of vaccuum that nature abhors; rather than what it really is--a source of calm and peacefulness, and a functionally appropriate working/eating/food preparation location.

No, I do not have Issues. Why do you ask?

[Tracey in TX]

1.Placing dishes on left side of sink. Hellooo..that's the CLEAN side. :)

2. People telling me how to parent my children. <yawn>

3. Actually expecting me to follow inane rules. Oh yea, rules just to establish rules are grating, also.

Lastly, "the gatekeeper". Those people who block access to another in order to gain power and feel more important.

[debbiec]

HA! I was going to mention the ice crunching but I was afraid it was just me and scared what people would think :)

[Marie in Oh]

Uptight people. And let me tell you, I am surrounded by them. :chillpill:

[Tammy]

nt

[Tammy]

nt

[Just a Jen in Mississippi]

Telling my mother-in-law that we aren't eating much sugar and for her to tell my sister-in-law that she doesn't care, she is bringing the bags full of junk and candy to my house, and she does. I could go on and on on the m-i-l issue, but I'll stop here.

Jealous people

Dumb drivers

People who walk out of public rest rooms without washing their hands.

People who bring their kids to church after they have been throwing up all night.

Not obeying the leash laws and allowing your dog to crap in my flower beds and run up and bark at me in my own yard.

And I have to agree with the first poster (I think) who mentioned the parents that don't see the flaws in the own child and wants to criticize others.......I've been around that before and yes, it bugs me.

Well, I know there are more, but I'll stop there! :tongue_smilie:

[Momto4kids]

1.Placing dishes on left side of sink. Hellooo..that's the CLEAN side. :)




.

Or when people put dirty dishes in the sink WHILE you are in the middle of doing dishes. grrr

[Soph the vet]

Drivers on cell phones.
Worse...teenage drivers on cell phones.
Bicyclists on cell phones.
People who text eachother instead of having a meaningful conversation.
Teenages who are permanently attached to their iPod.

Do you see a theme here yet?
:D

[Suzanne in ABQ]

Women who stand to pee, proceed to pee all over the seat, and then walk out and leave it there.

Pleeeeeease! If you choose to stand, at least clean up after yourself.

There's nothing worse than sitting in someone elses pee, or having to clean up after them.
Yuck.

That's all. No list. If I can just get the word out on this one, I'll be happy.

[True Blue]

Ummm, ewwwwwwwwwwww.

[Mrs Mungo]

When I search online for an innocent subject and it brings up porn.

NEVER search cloth diapers or lactation. I'm just saying.

[Angela in TN]

When someone lets loose a "silent but deadly" and dosen't say excuse me or dosen't bother to find a corner to let it out away from others. I know it happens sometimes but ugh, and I live in a house with all boys!

[Angela in TN]

Women who stand to pee, proceed to pee all over the seat, and then walk out and leave it there.

Pleeeeeease! If you choose to stand, at least clean up after yourself.

There's nothing worse than sitting in someone elses pee, or having to clean up after them.
Yuck.

That's all. No list. If I can just get the word out on this one, I'll be happy.

I was having a conversation with a friend who started talking about this and she said that how the people who usually do this don't want to sit on a "unsanitary toilet seat" yet they leave their pee all over the seat for someone else! Yuck, I agree. Let's start a national campaign!:D Seriously...

[Blossom'sGirl]

1. Christmas decorations still all over a yard in June

2. My Mother's attempt to passively control my life.

3. Headaches every weekend ..but I'm not so sure I really care for them on school days either.

I have some heavier pet peeves but --- I HAVE ANOTHER HEADACHE - not really yelling just sick of them.

[j.griff]

:D ROFLOL, "but, if EVERYONE would just stand up and hover over the pot to pee, then it wouldn't be an issue" LOL. ;)

[Paz]

People licking their fingers. It makes me want to hurl. I was at dd's softball game recently and watched a lady lick ketchup off each of her fingers then pick up the ketchup and then the onion spoon with that same hand to doctor up her hotdog. Nice! :glare:

[Elaine]

Drivers on cell phones.
Worse...teenage drivers on cell phones.
Bicyclists on cell phones.
People who text eachother instead of having a meaningful conversation.
Teenages who are permanently attached to their iPod.

Do you see a theme here yet?
:D

Were we the same person in another life?:lol:

My son has an 11 year old friend who has his own cell phone! Eleven! Why, why, why? I ask you? :willy_nilly:

[Elaine]

Ummm, ewwwwwwwwwwww.

Hey! I see that you are an Elaine, too. Are you going to go by Elaine or True Blue? I usually go by Elaine but many here know me as Laney, my blog name and nickname since birth.

Tell me what you prefer. :D I can easily switch.

[Tammy]

It is pretty difficult to hover though, LOLOLOL!

[Elaine]

When someone lets loose a "silent but deadly" and dosen't say excuse me or dosen't bother to find a corner to let it out away from others. I know it happens sometimes but ugh, and I live in a house with all boys!

Oh, Angela! You are singing my song, girl! I fancy myself the town crier of farts. If you did it, excuse yourself.

I am surrounded by boys, too.:001_smile:

[Alenee]

Mine are:

People who give unsolicited advice.

Health nuts who think they need to tell you how unhealthy everything is that you're eating.

Bicyclists who ride in the middle of the road...this one really fires me up!

My dh's slippers, shoes, *just* outside the closet, not in it! :glare:

[j.griff]

our 13yod has her own cell phone, for when we drop her off at classes or when she runs in the store for something quick. She does NOT use it all the time though, only DH and I have her number, LOL. No texting, no friend phone calls, etc.

[Mekanamom]

Chewing with an open mouth
Talking with a full mouth

:::shudder:::

Oh, and people who unfailingly and consistently time their questions/conversation starters at the dinner table right when they see the food going into your mouth. :001_huh:

[2greatkids]

:D
Almost everything everyone has mentioned annoys me as well.... hmmmm... Maybe I have more issues than I thought!:lol:
Additionally...
The misuse of their, and there... threw and through... AND you're and your.... ACK!!!

[j.griff]

But it IS good exercise, especially if you've been "holding it" for a long time, trying to avoid having to use a wet seated public toilet. :D

[MichelleWI]

I've been trying to avoid this thread because it makes my hackles rise because so many of these things annoy me, too.

I have to say (not knowing if it has already been said) that people who shop with their cart in the MIDDLE of the aisle irritate me and those who leave their carts in the way while they meander down the aisle or around the corner really put me over the edge.

I take up less room with my cart and children than these people do alone!

http://slob.travelersplace.com/Smileys/default/aaah.gif

[Cornerstone Classical]

When you are at the check out and the person behind pushes their cart into your body or if they don't have a cart they are standing right up next to you.

Come on people give me some room and Quit Being Nosey!:smash:

The last time this happened little shy me turned around and gave the person a dirty look and I said " Excuse Me!"
The cashier snickered and said "I see it all day long and I'm glad you're one that finally said something".....

[ThelmaLou]

parents who put their babies in the church nursery with snotty noses

people who can't part with their ipods in public places (grocery store, retail establishment, restaurant)

blameshifting and whining

disrespectful kids and parents who tolerate them

people with caller i.d. calling me back when I accidentally dialed the wrong number. (If I'd have wanted to talk to you, I would have left a message or called back.)

the misspelling of the word "definitely."

removing crusts from sandwiches, or worse yet...crustless bread! What's up with that?

my kids leaving chunks of toothpaste in the sink

pushy telemarketers...does this really work on anyone?

Scenario: I scour the grocery store for a particular item and still can't find it. I ask an employee to tell me where it's at. They don't know, but drag me around the store looking in all the same places I already tried. I end up following someone around the store who knows less about where to find the product that I do. I guess I just do this to be polite, when what I'd really like to say is, "It's clear you don't have a clue, and unless you happen to know exactly where this item is located, this is going to be a colossal waste of time." Instead I follow them around, kicking myself for asking in the first place.

Signs on grocery store aisles that read "can vegetables," "box cereal" and such. Try "canned" and "boxed" for a change. I guess it's the English major in me.

Boy, after re-reading my list, I sound pretty cranky, don't I? I could keep going, too. Yikes!

[Tammy]

These are great! I agree with all of them!

[WTMindy]

Hey! I see that you are an Elaine, too. Are you going to go by Elaine or True Blue? I usually go by Elaine but many here know me as Laney, my blog name and nickname since birth.

Tell me what you prefer. :D I can easily switch.
I don't think either need to switch, because when I see your avatar I immediately know who it is. But, I don't know how other people, who see it in different views see it.

[True Blue]

I would hope neither of us would have to change. I'm going as True Blue because there is an established Elaine already. But inside its more intimate to have my name. I don't post enough for it to be a big deal anyway. :)

[tmkclscroggins]

Ice Crunching
Reckless drivers
Smacking food or gum
People who put their dirty dishes on the counter instead of IN THE EMPTY DISHWASHER!!!


melissa

[j.griff]

Oh, I have one more to add. :D
People who "pretend" to wash their hands in public restrooms- especially in restaurants- EWWW!
I wish they'd put video screens in the new restrooms- with someone talking about how nasty it is to NOT wash your hands, and with someone giving directions on how TO *really* wash your hands.
Nope folks, rinsing your hands for 3 seconds does NOT count. You just added thousands of nasty germs and didn't get rid of any of the ones you already had. You'd have been better off just not touching the faucet and soap dispenser. :D

[True Blue]

I should have addressed you in the post below. I don't think its a big deal. I don't post much. You can be Elaine number 1. :)

[Alenee]

I'm sick of getting the e-mail saying, "Someone's sent you a $1000 Wal Mart Gift Card!"

What.ever.

[Remudamom]

smacking gum

Oh me too. I hate it. It's bad enough when it's a child, but even worse is a grown woman grinding away like a cow chewing it's cud.

[Angela in TN]

Alright I am dying here these are hilarious! I have an issue with people who don't understand "personal space" this goes for people I know and more so for folks I don't know. Why would someone stand right up on you in line or when they are trying to talk to you? I've had to step back "casually" from the close talkers. Don't get me wrong I love affection and hugs etc. just don't get up in my bubble if it's not necessary!

Oh and check out this smilie I wished I'd found for my last post http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/fart003.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

Alright....I'm done.

[Soph the vet]

A few more...

televisions in kids bedrooms

clients who call to ask if it's ok to give their dog ibuprofen AFTER they've already done it!
(By the way, don't give any dog ibuprofen or Tylenol)

hunting dog owners who pull the porcupine quills "out" themselves "cuz they thinks they got 'em all...but now that dog won't hunt and I think he's sick" - yes, he's sick alright, because you did NOT get all the quills out of his throat!!

[Kelli in TN]

Chewing with your mouth open
Talking with food in your mouth
Smacking your lips when you eat
Eating in the bed
Passing gas and then making a face as if you can't believe that slipped out of you even though everyone saw you shift your weight to one side to let it out and heard you hold your breath so you could propel it further for effect
Not rinsing your toothpaste down the sink
Not flushing
Putting your shoes in front of the special shoe holders we spent money on when we customized our closet, as if you have energy enough left to get the shoes that far but actually putting them the other two inches into their assigned place would take more reserves of strength than you have left
Dropping your belongings on my sewing table
Standing really close to me when you talk to me
Allowing children to go out in public dirty, with messy hair or raggedy clothes in order to let them express their personal style
Lying
Using southern slang as an actual language in every day communication as opposed to using it for jocularity
Racial slurs
Mouthy kids (my own and those belonging to other people)
People standing around in my kitchen while I am cooking
People talking to me while I am in the bathroom or shouting to me when they are in the bathroom
Complaining about getting negative reputation points on message boards
Foul language
Not sorting laundry correctly
Removing one person's wet clothes and laying them on top of the dryer so that you can do your laundry even if it is not your laundry day

I am sure there is more. I have lots of issues.

[Mom2legomaniacs]

LOL! These are great. Dare I say I have more than a few? Ok, here are some of them:

Aggressive, rude drivers

Rude shoppers who cannot be bothered to say excuse me when they walk in front of what you are very clearly studying-- even more so when they STOP there, directly in front of you blocking you totally!

Mean, lying people

People who jump to crazy conclusions, chew you out, and are totally wrong

Judgmental people

Parents who do not actually parent their children and allow them to behave in a manner, in public, that is highly disruptive to others (not normal kids stuff, but the truly obnoxious)

General lack of manners and respect for others and their personal property

When you ask a question of someone (I won't name any names here DH, don't worry), and they simply cannot understand how a direct response would be desired. Details may come later, but a direct response at the outset would be very helpful and much less confusing to this simpleton.

Baby talk and really poor grammar usage, especially when speaking


Oh my, I am really picky, aren't I? Yes, there are many, many more things that irritate me.

Most them come down to basic lack of respect in general in all areas.

[Elaine]

I would hope neither of us would have to change. I'm going as True Blue because there is an established Elaine already. But inside its more intimate to have my name. I don't post enough for it to be a big deal anyway. :)

Mindy is right, we have avatar's. Duh! My bad.:001_smile:

[mellifera]

someone partially erases (or just erases so that you can still read what was just erased) and writes over that. Then I end up trying to read both things at the same time. :rant: It doesn't work.:toetap05:

[Kelli in TN]

Taking the newspaper into the bathroom before everyone in the house has had a chance to read it
Interrupting
Talking over people who are talking already
Picking your nose
Picking your teeth
Talking loudly

[Donna]

I absolutely hate dirty dish water left in the sink.

[Jenny in Atl]

I thought of one I hate more than rude drivers...

When my dh :001_wub: leaves his dirty clothes next to the laundry basket and his shoes under the kitchen table with socks stuck in the shoes.
:smash:

[RoughCollie]

My pet peeves are:

People who turn left in front of me from the right lane.

People who talk on their cell phones while driving.

People who honk at me when I stop at a yellow light instead of going through it on pink.

People who sit on my dog's place on my couch when I tell them not to. This results in the dog whining, barking, and poking at the person, and generally takes up my time and distresses my dog when it is not necessary.

People who talk *extra* fast at me. I know from experience that it doesn't matter what I say, because they don't listen. I don't think they breathe, either.

Bad manners of all types.

Limousine liberals.

Tax increases.

Emails that are forwarded because they are funny or inspirational or are an urban legend that someone takes seriously. I don't read forwarded email. I look at it as the sender is letting me know s/he is alive and well enough to hit "send".

Continually being asked to help find something that is right out in the open, as plain as the nose on someone's face. Or being asked to find something that the person didn't put away where it belongs in the first place.

Doctors who tell me the stress of homeschooling is causing my symptoms when it is really, truly a major heart problem, and I know it.

And last, but not least, being constantly interrupted when I am trying to concentrate on something and everyone knows it and there is another adult in the house who can help the interrupter out, unless the interrupter is the adult who can jolly well help himself. This especially makes me mad when I am trying to play Sudoku.

[Kelli in TN]

People saying to me "Smell this"
People who leave public restrooms without washing their hands
People who walk through stores talking into their bluetooth thingies
Wal Mart
People asking me right after lunch "When's supper?"
People asking me right after breakfast "When's lunch?"
People asking me right after supper "Can we have a bedtime snack?"

[j.griff]

I'm beginning to think that Kelli just isn't much of a "people" person, :D

[Karin]

Sure, and many of them have already been listed here. I'm guessing that if enough pet peeves are put on here, we'll all find something that we do;) eg Me? I'm sometimes uptight, and that was one!!!! Even though I do work on not being uptight and have improved, it's hard to undo that hardwiring.

But I will say that rude, selfish drivers get my goat--and their excuses for not sharing the road are things like "If I leave more space between cars, people will cut in front of me." Aren't we supposed to share the road????

[Wendi]

My pet peeves are:

Continually being asked to help find something that is right out in the open, as plain as the nose on someone's face. Or being asked to find something that the person didn't put away where it belongs in the first place.

And last, but not least, being constantly interrupted when I am trying to concentrate on something and everyone knows it and there is another adult in the house who can help the interrupter out, unless the interrupter is the adult who can jolly well help himself. This especially makes me mad when I am trying to play Sudoku.

Here's a variation on the first one that drives me nuts: family members who will open the dishwasher, look in, and call out to me (wherever I am in the house), "Is the dishwasher clean or dirty?" :confused1:

Wendi

[kdeno]

who were up vomiting the night before!! I feel like I always catch it and it takes forever to go through my family. I am very vocal about this and I am sure all of my friends are sick of hearing about it:auto::bigear:

[Doran]

Small children who poke me with their index finger in order to get my attention. I have been known to turn to children I hardly know and say, through gritted teeth, "Do NOT poke me!"

Dirty dishes in cold water

Civil servants who treat me like an imbecile.

Tourists who walk and talk IN the road while deciding what store to visit next (can you tell we live in a tourist town?)

Telephone receptionists or any other phone answering people who do not have the brains or training to actually route my call to the person I've requested.

People who don't return calls (emails).

Stinky farts.

Fifteen thousand drinking glasses all over my house.

Drivers who (a) do not use their turn signals (b) take half a lifetime to complete a turn (c) tailgate



Oh, Lordy -- I think I need to stop.


Doran

[kdeno]

:iagree:

[CAMom]

I have way too many but I think the top of my list is:

Drivers who do not follow the rules at a 4 way stop! If it's your turn--GO! Do not wave other drivers through. That is not being polite, that is messing up the system! Bugs the crud out of me!

CAMom

[Miss Peregrine]

I really hate when , in stores, people stand and glare at my kids if they are in the way. Haven't they ever heard of "pardon me?" If you need to get by say something because I will wait you out.

[LG Gone Wild]

1
Lastly, "the gatekeeper". Those people who block access to another in order to gain power and feel more important.

people with a small job and a big sense of authority. Can we get a gagging smiley here?:tongue_smilie:

[Kari C in SC]

I don't like clapping. Well, I am okay with clapping myself. I don't like to hear clapping. You know on things like Rachel Ray or Oprah - yes, I watch these types of shows! LOL! It just annoys me all the noise. Why do they need to do all that just because somebody walks out on stage?

[Tracey in TX]

Women who stand to pee, proceed to pee all over the seat, and then walk out and leave it there.

Pleeeeeease! If you choose to stand, at least clean up after yourself.

There's nothing worse than sitting in someone elses pee, or having to clean up after them.
Yuck.:iagree:

That's all. No list. If I can just get the word out on this one, I'll be happy.
"If you sprinkle
when you tinkle,
Be a sweetie.
Wipe the seatie."

Think we could post that in public bathrooms?:lol:

[Merry]

I'm deaf, you know, and I hate it when a person comes up to me and enunciates clearly, "Can you read my lips?" and when I say, "Well, so, so, not very well" and he most likely would say, "Oh, you can read my lips!!" Ugh. Another peeve of mine is that people would come up to me and say, "Oh, I wish I knew sign language" or "I should learn sign...." and yet they never get around to learning it, not even the alphabet. Or they gush about how wonderful and beautiful sign language is, or how interesting the deaf culture is, blah, blah. And sometimes sort of try to adopt me as some sort of mascot or project or something. I'm sure that other handicapped or ethnic people have come against the same attitude. But really, the other peeves you listed seem minor to me by comparison, I'm sorry to say. Except maybe for cell phones and toilet seats. I agree with you there!

[RoughCollie]

I get that here, too. Why can't anyone just look at the dishes and see that they are clean? Even the dog can tell!

Here's a variation on the first one that drives me nuts: family members who will open the dishwasher, look in, and call out to me (wherever I am in the house), "Is the dishwasher clean or dirty?" :confused1:

Wendi

[LadyNancy]

Pet peeves:

1. Gum chewing. More specifically, adults chewing gum. Especially adults chewing a big wad of gum in church.

2. Telemarketers.


There's one more I'm forgetting.....can't think of it now.

[RoughCollie]

My cousin is deaf and that reminds me of one of my pet peeves when I am with her.

She can read lips and speak very well. If you didn't know she was deaf, you wouldn't realize it.

So many people will discover she is deaf and then stand behind her and yell something to see if she reacts.

It drives me nuts that they test her like that. What, she's going to lie about being deaf?

I'm deaf, you know, and I hate it when a person comes up to me and enunciates clearly, "Can you read my lips?" and when I say, "Well, so, so, not very well" and he most likely would say, "Oh, you can read my lips!!"

[Jenny in Atl]

Pet peeves:

Telemarketers.

.

I think they are on everyones list. I had a friend who used to try to turn the tables on TM's, asking them questions, generally driving them nutz till they would hang up on him. He loved doing it!

[WTMindy]

Fifteen thousand drinking glasses all over my house.

Oh, Lordy -- I think I need to stop.
Doran

It sounds like you just need to stop drinking so much!http://www.33smiley.com/smiley5/humor/2.gif

You guys are cracking me up with all your peevs!

[WendyK]

My pet peeve is lateness. I hate being late. If I am on my way somewhere and suddenly realize I will be late, then 9 out of 10 times I will turn around and go back home. For me it is "better never than late"!

[Laurel T.]

Oh my heart is racing just reading this thread--I think I am going to have a panic attack.

People who bring their kids to church after they have been throwing up all night.

This happened to us last week. This sweet little girl came up to my ds (4 yo) and practically kissed him on the lips. She was hugging all over him when her daddy walked up and said "are you feeling better honey?" She says "No, my tummy still hurts." To which I say what is the matter sweetheart and her daddy responds, "Oh she just started vomiting all over the place on the way here tonight." Help me I think I am going to lose it!

My other pet peeve is Walmart. Everything about it drives me crazy, especially when I have to check out my own groceries on the self-service lane. If I check out my own groceries I should get a discount or something.

Finally, this one is kind of strange and I am trying to get over it, but when I am talking to someone and they are picking in their teeth, wiping the corner of their mouth, or touching their face it freaks me out. It makes me think they are trying to subtly tell me that I have something on my face then I can't concentrate on the conversation, I just want to get to a mirror.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.

Laurel T.

[cin]

Pet peeves:

1. Gum chewing. More specifically, adults chewing gum. Especially adults chewing a big wad of gum in church.


There's one more I'm forgetting.....can't think of it now.


Gum chewing helps some children and adults with ADD focus on their tasks. Unfortunately, the deeper focus, the more voraciously I chew. I knwo it is annoying and rude, but it is the only way I can get things done.

I am not defending this, I know it is annoying (I hate to listen to it too) But just spreading the word.

[nestof3]

2. Adults who ask children starting when they are very young whether they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and take an avid interest in the results as though that is all there is in life or as though they even should be thinking that way at that age...


I agree. My Dad has already started in on my six year old. The dumb Charlie Brown movies don't help either (the ones they buy). Now, just the other day my youngest (6) asked the next door neighbor girl (who's probably five and whom he's never met before) if she had a boyfriend. Now my son sounds like the neighborhood pervert!

[nestof3]

Honestly, what ISN'T my pet peeve?

Slow drivers who seem to be paying attention to everything but driving.

Carts left in parking lots (I don't care what the reason is).

Late-paying customers (the ones living in houses we can only dream of living in, the ones who have nannies and maids but still can never seem to afford to pay their bills on time -- or they're always getting lost.)

Or the customer who always pays us the same amount each month from his auto debit bank account -- even if no work was done. The guy I have to email and let him know I'm shredding his check b/c there was no payment due. And, did I mention this guy works in BANKING? LOL

Beginning a sentence with "and" or "but" in formal writing. I know I just did it, but it annoys me when my son is reading a reader and they do this. In the grammar book by the same company, I bet they remind the children never to do this.

Don't even get me started on incomplete sentences in readers. Great, then I turn around and have to teach my son the difference between complete and incomplete sentences.

People who are late.

People who always have an excuse. People who whine about problems, and when you offer a solution, you realize they don't want to solve the problem, they just want to complain.

When people leave dishes in the sink instead of the dishwasher.

Junk drawers.

Slanted news. News with an agenda.

Solicitors who do not seem to comprehend my "No Solicitations" sign.

Junk mail.

Children who put their fingers into communal food.

Bathrooms with no hand towels.

Kitchens with no hand towels -- or wet hand towels -- or hand towels/dishcloths that smell like they aren't washed often.

When I'm waiting in line, and a cashier opens another register, and someone who's behind me BOLTS up to the register. I ALWAYS offer the lane to the people in front of me first.

Smoking.

[gardenschooler]

People who have to talk very loudly in public, airing out all of their personal business. I don't want to hear someone's private conversation while I'm waiting behind them in line. Talk about it later, I could be a crazy person about to follow you home for all you know! Teenage girls are often guilty of this - I know the rest of their weekend plans just from 5 minutes in line at Target.

But more than that, those parents who do this odd conversation with their child for the sake of any bystanders nearby. I don't need to hear each and every thing you're going to say to you little precious pumpkin. It almost sounds as if you're projecting your voice on purpose, to get my approval (a perfect stranger). I hear this all the time in stores, the library, and *everywhere*.

"Oh, little ooohey-shmooey, let's put all those books back on the shelf. Mommy will help you! Yes, they're pretty. Very pretty. Pretty like sissie's hair, yes. That's a good boy."

The same thing in stores. What is this? I mean, they're practically shouting and all the while, stealing glances at me. What do I look like the "Keep your kid in line" police?
http://www.33smiley.com/smiley2/work/civil/13.gif

[gardenschooler]

People licking their fingers. It makes me want to hurl.

It sounds like nails on a chalkboard to me. Worse. Slurp, smack. Gross!!

[gardenschooler]

I'm beginning to think that Kelli just isn't much of a "people" person, :D

Kelli, I've got a good trick for those 'people'. They're not allowed to talk to me. :)

[gardenschooler]

Small children who poke me with their index finger in order to get my attention. I have been known to turn to children I hardly know and say, through gritted teeth, "Do NOT poke me!"

I jump 10 feet in the air when some random kid does this. Mine know good and well never to do this to me.

Once, a neighbor boy (around 10 or 11) thought it would be funny to sneak up behind me while I was doing some concentrated yardwork and scream, "Boo!" while simultaneously poking me. I doubt he'll ever do that again in his life, to anyone.

People who don't return calls (emails).

People who call me repeatedly. I've got someone like this in my life right now, and while she's a very sweet person overall, she is very upset when I don't call her back right away. When she calls and I do answer the phone, I feel like the next hour of my life has just been stolen. While we are working on something that requires communication, she refuses to email. And every phone conversation is just hash and re-hash, sort of talking aloud with me as a sounding board. It feels very high-maintenance.

Ok, that's another one! High-maintenance friends. They don't last long with me.

[pixelroper]

People who have to talk very loudly in public, airing out all of their personal business. I don't want to hear someone's private conversation while I'm waiting behind them in line. Talk about it later, I could be a crazy person about to follow you home for all you know! Teenage girls are often guilty of this - I know the rest of their weekend plans just from 5 minutes in line at Target.


:iagree: I still can't figure that out- they might as well say "Look at ME pleeeease."

[Laurel T.]

"Oh, little ooohey-shmooey, let's put all those books back on the shelf. Mommy will help you! Yes, they're pretty. Very pretty. Pretty like sissie's hair, yes. That's a good boy."


Oh I am right there with you on this one. My sister and I have laughed about this one many times. It just kills me, because I cannot imagine that they talk to the child like this all the time.

Laurel T.

[Mamagistra]

I've got someone like this in my life right now...When she calls and I do answer the phone, I feel like the next hour of my life has just been stolen.

Oh. boy. I am SO with you here! :tongue_smilie: For me, it's two people! In fact, before I answer, I feel compelled to spend a moment wondering whether or not the next hour is expendable. Sometimes I miss the call just considering it! :lol:

[Plaid Dad]

Signs on grocery store aisles that read "can vegetables," "box cereal" and such. Try "canned" and "boxed" for a change. I guess it's the English major in me.

If you're cranky, so am I. "Ten Items or Less" drives me batty. I've been known to walk by those signs growling, "Fewer....fewer...!"

[gandpsmommy]

If you're cranky, so am I. "Ten Items or Less" drives me batty. I've been known to walk by those signs growling, "Fewer....fewer...!"

Grammatical errors, such as this, really do grate on my nerves, especially the fewer vs. less issue. I am continually amazed at how many seeemingly well-educated people seem to think these words are interchangeable.

In the tiny little town where my parents live, there is actually a street sign that reads, "Oncoming traffic has right away." Even if the workers who ordered the sign thought that this was correct wording, wouldn't you think that someone at the sign company would have caught the error? Isn't there a proofreader somewhere?

[gandpsmommy]

Oh, I have one more to add. :D
People who "pretend" to wash their hands in public restrooms- especially in restaurants- EWWW!
I wish they'd put video screens in the new restrooms- with someone talking about how nasty it is to NOT wash your hands, and with someone giving directions on how TO *really* wash your hands.
Nope folks, rinsing your hands for 3 seconds does NOT count. You just added thousands of nasty germs and didn't get rid of any of the ones you already had. You'd have been better off just not touching the faucet and soap dispenser. :D

Even my 4yo and 6yo think this is totally disgusting! It's probably because dh and I have so thoroughly instilled hand-washing in them that they can't imagine anyone not washing their hands after using the restroom. Dd even insists on spitting out chewing gum if she has to go to the restroom because she is sure it will accrue germs if she keeps it in her mouth while in the restroom. At 6yo, she even uses a paper towel to open the door when exiting a public restroom and then tosses it back into the trash can while holding the door open with her back, because she doesn't want to get germs from the door handle after thoroughly washing her hands.

[Plaid Dad]

In the tiny little town where my parents live, there is actually a street sign that reads, "Oncoming traffic has right away." Even if the workers who ordered the sign thought that this was correct wording, wouldn't you think that someone at the sign company would have caught the error? Isn't there a proofreader somewhere?

Apparently not. There are highway signs in Massachusetts that read "Stay awake. Take a break for safety sake." I grumble about the missing possessive every time I drive by one. (My poor family!)

I used to work in a copy shop, and I found ways of gently correcting errors on customers' business card or sign orders. We really weren't supposed to do that - what they wrote on the form is what they got - but I couldn't stand it. You would have been amazed at the array of errors, including several people who could not spell the names of their own professions correctly. :blink:

[CookieMonster]

Drivers on cell phones.
Worse...teenage drivers on cell phones.


Amen!

This, right now, really is my biggest pet peeve.

Every. single. time. I'm out on the road there is someone driving while on their cell phone. How do I know? I'm not looking for them, trust me. I know because of their kooky driving. Sometimes dangerous driving. And teenagers are the worst!

[Trivium Academy]

#1- Lying
#2- Defeatist attitude
#3- Lack of basic manners
#4- Lack of consideration others
#5- Overly dramatic people who cannot seem to handle ANY situation with a clear head.

There's more but really these get under my skin like nothing else. Especially lying, most times I don't see the point. A person willing to lose my trust and respect for a lie is not worth my time and energy- if you cannot tell the truth, don't say anything!

[elegantlion]

When you are at the check out and the person behind pushes their cart into your body or if they don't have a cart they are standing right up next to you

That's my biggest at this point. I like my personal space!

My husband saying he'll be home in 30 minutes and it takes an hour, I've just started doubling any time he tells me.

People who are late, worse yet people who tell you they are chronically late as if it is some disease they can't get rid of. (probably not written grammatically correct, but it's early and I don't care.)

People who say they'll call you right back and then don't.

People who drive like crazy through parking lots.

My 10 year old whining about the fact he has chores.

Intrusive state government (that's a whole other issue)

[nestof3]

Signs on grocery store aisles that read "can vegetables," "box cereal" and such. Try "canned" and "boxed" for a change. I guess it's the English major in me.
If you're cranky, so am I. "Ten Items or Less" drives me batty. I've been known to walk by those signs growling, "Fewer....fewer...!"

I agree.

How about the department store I was in years ago (it was like a Hechts but I cannot remember the name of it now)? A huge sign hung on the wall which read "Stationary."

Again, at AC Moore last year, my receipt included an item described as "stationary." I showed it to the cashier and laughed about it -- she looked at me as though she had no idea what was wrong with it.

[LadyNancy]

Regarding telemarketers:

I had a friend who used to try to turn the tables on TM's, asking them questions, generally driving them nutz till they would hang up on him. He loved doing it!I made the last telemarketer who called hang up on ME. :p

[Melissa in NC]

People who walk through a door way and STOP so you can not get around them.

Walmart !!!!!

Family members who drop hints of something begging you to be nosy - if you want to talk about something talk. Do not be coy.

Health nuts that say, "I guess one won't kill me" when you offer them a home made cookie. By George, I promise it is not filled with rat poison.

People that tell you, "You are not the friend I thought you were" then act as if they are your friend. (Passive Agressive)

Biting your nails.

Dogs that are taken out in public but do not have ANY manners. I do not appreciate the animal jumping on me.

People who think it is cute that their cold ridden baby plays with your water bottle and other stuff.

[Plaid Dad]

People who walk through a door way and STOP so you can not get around them.

Worse yet, people who come to a dead stop at the top of an escalator. :mad:

[Mama Lynx]

For instance, when someone says "I have no choice." RARELY is this true. We almost always have a choice. That choice might be difficult. It might be very, very hard to make one choice. You might *feel* like you have no choice because if you choose one way, you will have to move out of your comfort zone, or upset your family, or change your lifestyle, or say no to your kids, or show some courage. But you DO have a choice, and you ARE MAKING a choice!!!

GAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

Ahem.

It goes along with "he/she made me do it."

:smash:

On a less blood pressure-raising note, I also have a pet peeve about the widespread misuse of "comprise." "It's comprised of ..." Is WRONG.

Who was it who posted that the left side of the sink is the clean side? It is not. The RIGHT side is the clean side, and HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU? :willy_nilly:

[Philothea]

My pet peeves are:

People who turn left in front of me from the right lane.


I read the first line of this post and thought you must be from New England... well I was right! LOL

I've been in no other part of the country where that is a common practice.

[Caroline]

I am pretty sure you all would just hate me.;) I am probably a rude driver at times. :auto:I am sometimes oblivious to things my kids do. I don't stop at the top of escalators, but I have been known to stop in the middle of a grocery store aisle when a great meal idea hits me. :blush:(Or I figure out a calculus problem I am working on in my head.) I listen to my iPod while I am grocery shopping. I think I take up a lot of room when I grocery shop. I am late sometimes. I know I do not use proper English all of the time. My kids go out dressed in weird clothes to express their individuality. :D(My poor 13 year old about had a cow when he found out I took his 3 year old sister shopping in a tutu and a hardhat.)

My pet peeve is alcohol at youth sporting events. Don't show up drunk to a swim meet or a baseball game or a soccer game. It just doesn't make sense to me. I am not against drinking. I just think at a youth event, it doesn't belong.

[Momto4kids]

My husband saying he'll be home in 30 minutes and it takes an hour, I've just started doubling any time he tells me.



I thought this was just my husband! This was always a pet peeve of mine until I did what you do, double or triple the time he tells me. :D

[JFS in IL]

and kids who say "There is nothing to eat!" right after I spend $200 at the grocery store.

[Momto4kids]

and kids who say "There is nothing to eat!" right after I spend $200 at the grocery store.

Or when dh says it.

[Pajama Mama]

My pet peeve is when a person thinks that they don't need to apologize because "it was an accident." OK, you didn't do it on purpose but you still should say "sorry". My favorite example of this is, when I was 8-9 months pregnant my MIL stepped on my foot and just walked away. I said "EXCUSE ME" in a very loud and rude voice. She turned around and looked puzzled. When I asked if she knew that she stepped on my foot she said "Yeah, but it was an accident." So, apparently you only need to apologize when you do something on purpose:001_huh:

[Just Me]

I haven't read every post, but I agree with what I have read so far...

I will include:

Talking baby talk to a child who is more than 6 - 12 months old. I have a SIL who still does this with her 3 and 7 year olds, then tells me she doesn't understand why the 3 year old can't speak well! HUH?

Someone calling and ruining the surprise party you were planning for your dh~!

My bil - just in general, he peeves me!

Other people's kids coming over to my house and complaining about what I am serving for dinner! What? They weren't even invited to eat!!

My Border Collie whining to go out to chase squirrels, then 2 minutes later, barking to come back in!!

WOW - I have serious issues!

[elegantlion]

Who was it who posted that the left side of the sink is the clean side? It is not. The RIGHT side is the clean side, and HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU?

My house too!! My dh was raised to put the dirty dishes on the counter so you could use the sink, I was raised to put them in the sink so you could use the counter. It took about 10 years of marriage to work that one out.

[Karin]

This post has me thinking. As I mentioned before, I'm sure all of us can find at least one annoying thing we do (or else we'd be perfect, and as much as I like it here, I don't think any of us qualifies:001_smile:.)

But how many of us find ways to gently help people in our lives? I also hate people talking loudly about their personal lives in a line up, but there are some people who have voices who just carry (I call them natural stage voices.) I have one, but didn't know it until I was about 30--everyone just said I was talking loudly, but a friend who was a voice teacher told me that was incorrect, my voice carries even when I'm talking at a normal level.

As for the people who get on the phone for an hour, have you ever thought if saying something like, "I like talking to you, but I can only talk for x minutes today because I have plans."

A good friend of mine used to work as a contractor in the HR department for a large pharmaceutical company (she's got a different contract with them now.) One day she interviewed a woman who just did everything wrong. She talked nonstop for the first 2/3 of the interview, and couldn't figure out why no one would hire her. My friend finally said, "Stop," asked her if she wanted to know why, told her and sent her on her way. Three months later my friend received a thank you letter from this woman. NO ONE had ever told her she did this (don't just blame the parents--they might not have clued in--not everyone naturally gets these social issues, but she had friends, etc). She had taken these words to heart, applied them not only to job interviews but in her personal life, had landed a great job and was so much happier.

So, while we can't stop all the rude drivers, for which there is no valid reason, the loud gum chewers (and as Cin pointed out, a few of those chewers NEED to do it, and she agrees it's annoying), the people who run to the next line, can we not help others? I say this because I've been guilty of at least 6 of these habits at some point in the past and without the help of others who cared, I'd probably still be that way, kwim? I probably still have other habits to get over, but I'm guessing that no matter what I do, I'll manage to annoy someone somewhere sometime. I have at least one negative rep, so I've even done it here:). Guess this is kind of a soap box with me.

[Ferdie]

Cell phones:

I can't stand it when I am in close quarters (grocery line, doctor's office) and a complete stranger has a lengthy phone conversation within ear shot. Just makes me want to scream.

I also hate it when people answer their cell phones during a bible study, meeting, charity event or movie.

[melissel]

Women who stand to pee, proceed to pee all over the seat, and then walk out and leave it there.

Pleeeeeease! If you choose to stand, at least clean up after yourself.

There's nothing worse than sitting in someone elses pee, or having to clean up after them.
Yuck.

That's all. No list. If I can just get the word out on this one, I'll be happy.

I haven't read them all, but on behalf of the sitters everywhere--THANK YOU!!! Seeing that makes me want to vomit every. single. time.

[melissel]

Worse yet, people who come to a dead stop at the top of an escalator. :mad:

Ugh, I was going to say the same thing. I was nearly knocked over at the BOTTOM of an escalator one day because the people in front of me hadn't decided where they were going :glare:



On a less blood pressure-raising note, I also have a pet peeve about the widespread misuse of "comprise." "It's comprised of ..." Is WRONG.

Not so, unless you are opposed to the evolution of the language. According to Merriam-Webster:

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/comprise

(Darn it! The site won't let me copy and paste, so I'll have to link. Sorry!)

[Maria from IN]

I can't believe that after 12 pages no one has mentioned mine yet!

I used to work at a Sam's Club, and you wouldn't believe how some of these people's children were dressed! Usually (only in the summer, thankfully) this one couple, who owned a business that I personally would never darken the doorstep of after seeing how they paraded their children around, always came in with their babies in nothing but diapers. That's it--diapers. No shirts, pants, shoes, anything. Not that they were clean or anything, either. It's as if they rolled their children in dust before they threw them in the car.

Also there were some parents who would run in from the parking lot, in the 20 below wind chill, bundled to the teeth with parka, hat, scarf, gloves, and boots--while their babies had a little coat, usually unzipped, no hat, and no shoes...and frankly, I just don't believe the "she's just hot-natured" that I got from one mom.:glare:

Me? Pet peeves? Why, no!;)

[Stacy in NJ]

:tongue_smilie:

[Danestress]

People who think all problems can be solved with dietary changes.

As in, "Oh, your father has Alzheimer's Disease? Have you thought about krill oil supplements?"

"Your child got in trouble at school? Hmmm, maybe you should try taking him off dairy."

Please.

I also hate gum smacking (okay, even gum chewing).

I can't stand when waitresses say, "no problem" when I thank them for something. I know it's not a problem. You are here to serve. I also hate when they say, "here ya go," or, "and what would Mom like?" I don't like being called "Mom" by people who aren't my children:)

I can't bear hearing women talk really loudly to their children in a, "look at me, aren't I just a great Mom for this audience of listening shoppers?" kind of way.
It makes me want to be mean.

I also can't bear gentlemen wearing hats inside. I know this has caused a major rift on this board in the past, lol, but I guess that's why they are called "pet" peeves.

[H0MEFree]

People merging onto the freeway at whatever speed they feel like and just cut in front of you. :eek:

Oh sure- we are all here for you! Let me step out of your way, your highness!

[Miss Peregrine]

Long, fake fingernails. Blech and Nast-y!

Especially when you are serving me food in a restaurant. And I'm sorry but it has got to be said that there is no way to wipe properly with those things.
:ack2:

[JWSJ]

When the bartender makes my gin and tonic with cheap gin instead of the expensive stuff I asked for.

Oh, come on, I can taste the difference...

[Miss Peregrine]

Cell phones in public are annoying but what is worse is when someone is talking on their cell phone near me and I am just talking normally to my kids or whatever. I get a look and a snotty "Hold on, I can't hear right now" as they move away. :001_rolleyes:

[lynn]

My others are:

People talking on cell phones while driving or shopping.

Shopper that stand between 2 checkout lanes waiting to see which moves faster (I have no patience for this and I make up their minds for them:glare:

Older drivers that start and stop several times trying to turn right.

Fund raisers, seriously let me give you $50 at the beginning of the school year and leave me alone!!!

Slow fast food workers that get one item at a time. Or get my fries and while they are getting cold, get my drinks one at a time before the burgers are ready.:001_huh:

Sales clerk that make you wait while they carry on a conversation.

[j.griff]

I guess that's why they are called "pet" peeves.

LOL, when you put it that way, I just ain't gonna pet my peeves any more, LOL. I'll just let folks "get my goat" ;)

[MichelleWI]

Long, fake fingernails. Blech and Nast-y!

My husband's suitcase was inspected at some point during his return trip from Mexico last year. When I emptied the suitcase to do the laundry, I found a long, red, fake fingernail that had been lost in his things. Gag!

[j.griff]

My husband's suitcase was inspected at some point during his return trip from Mexico last year. When I emptied the suitcase to do the laundry, I found a long, red, fake fingernail that had been lost in his things. Gag!
:001_huh:
Oooooookaaay, likely story ;)

(I am SERIOUSLY just kidding, FTR)

[Angela in TN]

"If you sprinkle
when you tinkle,
Be a sweetie.
Wipe the seatie."

Think we could post that in public bathrooms?:lol:

AWESOME! You head up that campaign Tracey and I will back you up! That's hysterical:lol:

[MichelleWI]

:001_huh:
Oooooookaaay, likely story ;)

(I am SERIOUSLY just kidding, FTR)

I figured someone would say that. :001_tt2:

He had evidence, though. There was a note in the suitcase explaining that it had been inspected. He was thoroughly grossed out himself. And, for the record, my husband has a frightening aversion to bright red nails and would never go near someone who had them. They disgust him almost as much when they're still attached as when one turns up in his dirty laundry. LOL

[j.griff]

LOL. I know I get all kinds of carp from people when I try to tell them that not ALL Men look at p*rn, LOL. They roll their eyes at me and tell me I am just naive. What. Ev. ER!
Just wanted to mess with ya, but ya know I don't think he's hiring women when he's outa town. At least, not women with bright red nails, :D (But maybe ... ah nevermind, LOL)

[Dana in OR]

Someone using my playtex gloves (for handwashing dishes) and getting water inside of them.

That is all.

[Surfside Academy]

-Political ads on tv. I'm already getting cramps just thinking about what's to come and I don't discrimate against a certain political party. I hate all their ads!

-Opening a magazine and having 6 subscription flyers fall all over the floor. I've already subscribed for goodness sake!:banghead:

[gardenschooler]

This post has me thinking. As I mentioned before, I'm sure all of us can find at least one annoying thing we do (or else we'd be perfect, and as much as I like it here, I don't think any of us qualifies:001_smile:.)

But how many of us find ways to gently help people in our lives? I also hate people talking loudly about their personal lives in a line up, but there are some people who have voices who just carry (I call them natural stage voices.) I have one, but didn't know it until I was about 30--everyone just said I was talking loudly, but a friend who was a voice teacher told me that was incorrect, my voice carries even when I'm talking at a normal level.

As for the people who get on the phone for an hour, have you ever thought if saying something like, "I like talking to you, but I can only talk for x minutes today because I have plans."

A good friend of mine used to work as a contractor in the HR department for a large pharmaceutical company (she's got a different contract with them now.) One day she interviewed a woman who just did everything wrong. She talked nonstop for the first 2/3 of the interview, and couldn't figure out why no one would hire her. My friend finally said, "Stop," asked her if she wanted to know why, told her and sent her on her way. Three months later my friend received a thank you letter from this woman. NO ONE had ever told her she did this (don't just blame the parents--they might not have clued in--not everyone naturally gets these social issues, but she had friends, etc). She had taken these words to heart, applied them not only to job interviews but in her personal life, had landed a great job and was so much happier.

So, while we can't stop all the rude drivers, for which there is no valid reason, the loud gum chewers (and as Cin pointed out, a few of those chewers NEED to do it, and she agrees it's annoying), the people who run to the next line, can we not help others? I say this because I've been guilty of at least 6 of these habits at some point in the past and without the help of others who cared, I'd probably still be that way, kwim? I probably still have other habits to get over, but I'm guessing that no matter what I do, I'll manage to annoy someone somewhere sometime. I have at least one negative rep, so I've even done it here:). Guess this is kind of a soap box with me.

That is probably more helpful than griping, yes, but this is a gripe-fest. I'm not perfect, but like many others who are irritating and annoying, I'm not all that interested in changing either.

I'm sure I do irritating things. I generally try to be respectful of other people, but I have some *quirks* that aren't going to go away. Being overly sensitive to noise is one of them. Detesting people making spectacles of themselves in public is another.

And that's just it - most of these behaviors are from people that don't want to change. Your example of the interviewee is very different - she really had no idea how she was coming across. In that case, sure, it would be very helpful to know what you're doing wrong that is causing you to never get hired. These instance that I listed are strangers in public, so I don't think it's my place to tell them anything.

And yes, I guess some people's voices do just carry, but I'm talking about other factors. The girls in the checkout line giving out way too much personal info to just the general public. They know everyone can hear them. Or parents looking around for approval - that's not just a carrying voice. These instances are almost like a show - they obviously want everyone to hear. Haven't you seen people doing this?

I have tried everything under the sun for long phone talkers. It's considered *rude* of me not to set aside my time and make phone chatting important. The time limits or, "I can talk for a few minutes" are ignored, and if pushed, lead to hurt feelings. They feel like I'm saying, "You're not important," when these people are perfectly nice in person, but I just don't need to sit around and talk about nothing for no reason for extended periods of time. I'd rather do that in person. I don't like to just 'visit' on the phone.

My chatty friend and I have actually talked about this. I've told her I get headaches, I'm not a talkative person, I just *can't* do the marathon phone sessions! She was even more adamant that she couldn't do email. I compromised, she didn't. Her feelings are still very hurt if she knows I'm home and don't pick up the phone. I'm supposed to talk to her no matter what else is going on, or she feels rejected.

I did call her today, when I had a chunk of freetime. I thought this might prevent her from feeling as rejected, since every time she calls I'm in the middle of something (I'm generally always in the middle of something - I give the task at hand my full attention). I also cannot guarantee that I can call someone back within a few days - I may not want to spend my free time talking. I might be tired, or have a headache. Anyway, it was a 45 minute conversation about absolutely nothing. At one point, she was actually talking about laundry. That's what she needs, so I give it to her. But it's certainly not my preference. And I probably can't keep it up for long.

So, yes, she is aware of the problem. The same way people who stick their carts in the middle of the aisle can see exactly what they're doing. Not everyone really cares what is comfortable or most considerate for others.

How do you approach people with this? I'm curious because I haven't been able to see how it would relate to anyone other than our dh's or kids. Are you really comfortable correcting a friend's behavior? What do you say?

I feel the opposite, really. I don't think it's my place (I have enough people here that I need to try to civilize!), and I don't think it would be well-recieved. I know if a friend approached me with, "You know how you chew with your mouth open?" I wouldn't appreciate it at all.

(I don't chew with my mouth open, just using this as an example). :)

If you can clarify how you do this 'gently', without seeming overbearing or controlling, I'm curious. I still wouldn't do it, though.

[Luanne]

Do not put your stuff on the kitchen counter. Not your book, not your Legos, not your keys and wallet, not your shoes:blink:, and NOT THE NEIGHBOR'S TREE FROG.:ack2:


My tank with our frogs in it IS on our kitchen counter. LOL :lol:

[Luanne]

I've been trying to avoid this thread because it makes my hackles rise because so many of these things annoy me, too.

I have to say (not knowing if it has already been said) that people who shop with their cart in the MIDDLE of the aisle irritate me and those who leave their carts in the way while they meander down the aisle or around the corner really put me over the edge.

I take up less room with my cart and children than these people do alone!

http://slob.travelersplace.com/Smileys/default/aaah.gif

I have to go through this mess to clock in at work and again on each break and lunch and then again at the end of the day. I also think it is an unwritten rule that if you are wearing a Wal-Mart shirt they think they get extra points for blocking you or running over you with their cart (or even their car in the parking lot). :auto::eek:

[Tap, tap, tap]

people who say ohhh instead of zero. It causes data entry problems in the pharmacy.

People who combine numbers into pairs unecesarily, especially in addresses or phone numbers:
360-256-5895 turns into three, sixty, twenty-five six, fifty-eight, nine, five. This is especially fun for people who say numbers slow, or are trying to read them and pause alot. turns into three, sixty, twenty........,five six, fifty,.......eight, nine, five 360-205-650895 huh?!!? Then they get irritated if you ask them to say it again to try to figure out what they are trying to tell you. Then they slow down more, because they think you needed more time!

How about try....three, six, zero, two, five, six, five, eight, nine, five.



Or people who are giving you a string of numbers and make a mistake and just correct themselves without saying anything.

360-256-5895 turns into
360-258-2565895. If they would just say let me start over
360-256-5895 it would save a lot of confusion.


Weird but true peeves!

[Joanne]

My pet peeves on this lovely Easter, 2008:

Unsolicited advice (parenting, homeschooling, poker, weight loss, whatever. If I wanted *your* opinion on that aspect of my life, I'd ask.)

Drivers who drive too close to my bumper.

A suck out on the river.

Unexamined adoption of culturally inspired wisdom(not limited to this list):


If they sleep with you, you'll never get them out of your bed
Your job as a parent is to work your way out of a job
Children need to learn to be away from parents
Your body needs carbs! Atkins is unhealthy.


A bunch of cell phone culture related stuff.

Asking "how can a smart woman" stay in a situation like that? (With the implication being she's *not* smart. Of course the very statement belies the fact that the asker knows nothing about the nature of progressive abuse)

Statements like "I'm against divorce".

Exclusive religosity that asserts theirs is the only way to a moral, productive, saved life.

[momtolgd]

Misspelled words and typos...dh's typing drives me nuts!

[Karin]

That is probably more helpful than griping, yes, but this is a gripe-fest. I'm not perfect, but like many others who are irritating and annoying, I'm not all that interested in changing either.

I'm
If you can clarify how you do this 'gently', without seeming overbearing or controlling, I'm curious. I still wouldn't do it, though.

I wrote a reply and it signed me out when I tried to submit. I must have taken too long.

In short, this time, I would never do this with strangers, not likely with acquaintances. I'd rarely do it, and only if it was having a big impact on my life. I'd put the onus on me, rather than on something being wrong with them.

Mostly, one of my pet peeves is people not puttiing themselves in other people's shoes--I've been in your shoes (too much talking by someone when I just couldn't take an hour to talk) and the other side (when I had a real need to talk--I was born with an enormous need to communicate, not just about myself as I'm very interested in others, and I had to figure out how to channel it the hard way.) But if a friendship is important, I would work on a compromise, or else I'd let it go if it was really ruining my life.

[Joanne]

But how many of us find ways to gently help people in our lives?

Would you like a list?

Being willing and able to post about pet peeves is not mutually exclusive to being kind, helpful and considerate. Indeed, I believe a person can contribute to this thread *and* still be optimistic, lighthearted and fun.

[ChrisN in NY]

[edited to say that I have NOT read through the 14 pages. Ugh.]

.... I have dial up remember....

but two that come to my mind are the current explosions of "like" five hundred times in conversation, either when the speaker means said or thought, much less ala valley girl, and even more so "guys" to include girls or women. In my book, guys are boys or men.

And I REALLY HATE that these are so common in our culture that I hear them coming out of my mouth now and then!:tongue_smilie:

[HSMom2One]

I read this thread a couple of days ago and could relate to all of you that hate having the kitchen counter cluttered up, especially after just cleaning it. I did not post, but if I had I would have listed this is my top peeve.

Yesterday I mentioned the thread to my 76 yo dm who lives with us. {BTW, we get along wonderfully on the most part, but the kitchen (of course) is a challenge area.} Anyway, I had just cleaned off the counter and told her (in a friendly way and with humor) about how this seems to bother other women too, not just me.

Today I was gone all afternoon and when I got home I noticed that the counter is still clean! I think maybe when I told her about what you all were talking about, it must have scared her! There was not a single thing placed on that counter for over 24 hours!

Someone pinch me! Is it possible that the kitchen counter fairy has come to my house to live? http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/shocked004.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

Blessings,
Lucinda

[gardenschooler]

Mostly, one of my pet peeves is people not putting themselves in other people's shoes--I've been in your shoes (too much talking by someone when I just couldn't take an hour to talk) and the other side (when I had a real need to talk--I was born with an enormous need to communicate, not just about myself as I'm very interested in others, and I had to figure out how to channel it the hard way.) But if a friendship is important, I would work on a compromise, or else I'd let it go if it was really ruining my life.

I don't know if it's one of my pet peeves when people can't put themselves in other people's shoes, but I like to think I try to do that. I understand the need to talk. This friend and I are just complete opposites in that regard, but maybe we'll work out a compromise. I think she was delighted that I actually called her the other day, and maybe doing that when I do have time to talk will clear all this up.

I don't keep anything near me for one second that makes me miserable. :glare: If I didn't value this person, I would politely excuse myself, tell her I'm not into talking on the phone at all, and not worry about it. But we're working it out. I can give a little.

Whoever mentioned the 'not returning phone calls' pet peeve, I'm working on it. :001_smile:

[RoughCollie]

Lucinda, you send that fairy to me right away! :auto: She got lost on the way to my place.

RC



Someone pinch me! Is it possible that the kitchen counter fairy has come to my house to live? http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/shocked004.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

Blessings,
Lucinda

[NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too]

People saying to me "Smell this"
People who leave public restrooms without washing their hands
People who walk through stores talking into their bluetooth thingies
Wal Mart
People asking me right after lunch "When's supper?"
People asking me right after breakfast "When's lunch?"
People asking me right after supper "Can we have a bedtime snack?"

When my oldest did this to me recently, I went right to my dh and said "I am going to lose it the next time someone asks me to smell something. Really, if it stinks to you, then why do you want to share the STINK with me? I am not going to make you drink sour milk or wear stinky clothes, so why must you insist that I smell (fill in blank)? If you say it stinks, I believe you - I promise!"

I hope I made my point to the person that has started this bad habit!!

End of rant.

[dirty ethel rackham]

Bad knees? The elderly? Hovering ain't gonna work (yes, I said that on purpose and spell check didn't bat an eyelash:)). If you can't stand to touch the seat, feather the nest and clean up after yourself!! Either way, clean up after yourself!!!!

[rockermom]

Wet socks. I can't stand for my socks to get wet. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.

[Karin]

I don't know if it's one of my pet peeves when people can't put themselves in other people's shoes, but I like to think I try to do that. I understand the need to talk. This friend and I are just complete opposites in that regard, but maybe we'll work out a compromise. I think she was delighted that I actually called her the other day, and maybe doing that when I do have time to talk will clear all this up.

I don't keep anything near me for one second that makes me miserable. :glare: If I didn't value this person, I would politely excuse myself, tell her I'm not into talking on the phone at all, and not worry about it. But we're working it out. I can give a little.

Whoever mentioned the 'not returning phone calls' pet peeve, I'm working on it. :001_smile:


Yes, this thread has me working on some things I should be, too! I wasn't addressing you specifically about the shoes bit, just in general. It wasn't until I got into these threads that I thought about that one, and there are people IRL who don't. I've been kind of cranky, so I think I kind of took it out on this post (well, and once with my poor dh). We've had a month of illness here, I was sick for a week, and have been sick again for the past week.

[ThelmaLou]

If you're cranky, so am I. "Ten Items or Less" drives me batty. I've been known to walk by those signs growling, "Fewer....fewer...!"
I thought I was the only one!

[j.griff]

Ellen, I'm not sure I'm "reading" you correctly here. Just wanted to clarify, JIC- that I was jesting in my post, and I don't expect the whole world to hover over a toilet seat, and I don't pee on toilet seats.

[HootyTooty]

In no particular order:
*People who make dramatic exit posts online and say they will never appear again, only to show up 2 weeks later like nothing happened, only to repeat the same behave months later.
*People who back into parking spots, stopping parking lot traffic.
* People who do not pay attention the the direction signs at my gym. One way people!
* People who are willing to throw out criticism but are unable to deal when people criticize them.

[dirty ethel rackham]

LOL, I didn't think you were serious, but I have met people who are!