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mchel210
09-29-2009, 04:45 PM
So I am reading all these posts on the forum...and now I just need to vent. I am so upset with myself. Last year my husband convinced me to allow my kids to try out PS. All 3 went to school. My son only lasted till Dec. and I brought him home. My girls went into the gifted program and I left them in school. I left them in since my husband figured they had been doing well. One was working in and advanced class pretty much at the level she left off with here. The other was working way below her level but she said she was happy. The school promised me to continue this and they my little one would be working in 2nd grade material by 1st grade. Now...things have changed.

Both are still in gifted class...both are still in advanced classes...but my 3rd grader is repeating the work from last year? I dont get it. She didnt do good on the start of year testing, but she knows the material. She just did bad on the testing. Now I can sit here and ask her anything and she gets it right. I complained to the teacher who told me to call the principal...who told me...the "3" on the math book is just a number...it doesnt matter if she advances to the level "4" book it would be good for her to repeat the work and master it even more. UGhhhh. I have a meeting with her on Friday. She didnt say what for, but I am sure it is to reassure me that she will be fine repeating 3rd grade math even though she knows it.

My 6 yo's teacher is wonderful. She is so nice...but has told me that she cant advance her into the 2nd grade math book because the school wont give them the books. So...she will be working in 1st grade math all year.

So...pretty much they are dumbing down my kids to fit in with everyone else. I am so mad. I didnt pull them out since my husband was against it. He wanted them in PS since my son takes so long to homeschool. He has disgraphia and ADD and takes constant reminders. I am so frustrated though. He is trying to get my girls enrolled in our local private catholic school but they are almost impossible to get into since our school system is so bad!!!

I told my husband to pull them out Friday if they will not advance them! He finally agreed. I know he wants them in private school but at least I can work with them till they go into private school. I am so over this. I just feel mixed up. Do you leave them in a regular class to fall behind or push them to be ahead of everyone? I can keep pushing them and they will be way ahead. How much is too much? I know my kids have become super lazy as far as school now. They stopped enjoying reading...writing...math. Everything. I am so sad. I just have to convince my husband that they can excel at home with a child that takes so much time...and a mom that has low tolerance for stress! Somehow our local catholic school has advanced kids. THey get into very hard classes by high school. The elementary is next to the high school and the kids can take advanced classes at the high school once they get past 6 grade.

Ok...I just needed to vent. I am so mad. I just finally decided to give my dd her answers from last years school math book and I am allowing her to do MY old math books instead. I know that is terrible. I have tried to talk to some of my friends around here that dont homeschool and they just dont get it. They cant figure out why I am so upset. It is like Im telling them my kids are too good for the books...but ...I know my kids are way above their level.

If they do come home...I have pretty much sold everything that is theirs. Ughhhhhh.....My dd was reading SL core 3 books and my son is using core 6 so I am sure I can use SOTW with the girls. Then add in my own science. Math...I have last years abeka 1 and 3...which are too easy. I saw a link one time for a free curriculum for ancient history for lower grades...but I cant find the link. I also have vocabulary from the classical roots 5 for my 3rd grader. I also have IEW for writing and left over abeka grammar 1 and 3.

Kfamily
09-29-2009, 05:09 PM
:grouphug::grouphug:

I'm sorry...that sounds so frustrating! I'm glad you get to bring them home if needed.

Nan in Mass
09-29-2009, 05:26 PM
I'm sorry. Just be glad you figured out the mistake as quickly as you did. Sigh. It is even harder to undo the damage after more years in school. There were several posts this summer or earlier in September about free curriculum. Perhaps it would help to investigate it? -Nan

Nan in Mass
09-29-2009, 05:30 PM
Here is the condensed version of the thread (which was huge): http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=118355&highlight=free+curriculum

Jen in PA
09-29-2009, 09:44 PM
:grouphug: Sorry to hear about this! I hope that everything works out with bringing them home.

kpupg
09-30-2009, 10:05 AM
:grouphug:

We pulled out kids from a well-regarded Catholic school for reasons much like yours. You have all my sympathies.

Karen

mchel210
09-30-2009, 11:15 AM
well...feel free to root me on! I need it. Im sure not getting it around here. The only people I think that are super supportive are my mom, my husband(who finally is back on board...) and our homeschool group that I never see) It seems everyone else just makes you doubt your ability to work with your kids. I have to learn to block them out!