Kind of a weird question regarding age differences ...

[Luanne]

in relationships. There is this really nice (cool, sweet) guy at work who is a bit younger than I am. I can't act on it right now anyway since he is one of my supervisors, but ...

[nestof3]

What's your question?

My husband is 13 years older than I am. We've had no problems! :)

[Luanne]

I guess I pretty much have always been involved with guys who were older than I am (the most was by 7 years) ... obviously I've never been in a successful relationship or I wouldn't be single right now.

I guess my question would be how much is too much age difference and does it matter if the female is the one who is older?

[Kay in Cal]

My step-dad (who is a wonderful, stellar guy!) is 4 years younger than my mother. They've been married for over 25 years... so I know it can indeed work when the people are right and the commitment is there--same criteria for any marriage!

[Luanne]

That this guy is 18 years younger than I am. Does that change things?

[Kay in Cal]

Well... I still think it takes the right people, and commitment on both sides. A good marriage takes love, commitment and good timing as well.

I have a friend who has been in a relationship with a much younger man for a while now, and while he has proposed to her, she keeps turning him down. Why? Because she is past her child-raising stage (she has 11 children, all grown, and no interest in raising more) and he is in is mid-30s. She knows he enjoys kids, and just thinks that even if it works out in the short term, in the long term he really needs to be with a woman who wants to have children. They may have the love and commitment, but the timing just isn't there for them.

I think you need to decide what you want from a permanent relationship, what he wants, and then go from there. Of course, in this case you don't even know yet!

[Luanne]

Well... I still think it takes the right people, and commitment on both sides. A good marriage takes love, commitment and good timing as well.

I think you need to decide what you want from a permanent relationship, what he wants, and then go from there. Of course, in this case you don't even know yet!

I don't even know if he is interested or not and I don't even know how to approach him. I mean we talk at work and such and we seem to get along the best I can tell. I really don't know where to go from here. :banghead:
I would really like to find out if he is interested. I know I have thought maybe I should just forget it and let it go, but then he walks by and my heart ... well, you know how it is. :001_rolleyes:

[Mx5]

I don't even know if he is interested or not and I don't even know how to approach him. I mean we talk at work and such and we seem to get along the best I can tell. I really don't know where to go from here. :banghead:
I would really like to find out if he is interested. I know I have thought maybe I should just forget it and let it go, but then he walks by and my heart ... well, you know how it is. :001_rolleyes:

My son is 18. If I were single, and thought a guy 18yrs younger than me was interested in me, I know how I think... I'd be thinking he's sweet but I could be his mom. Not saying you should feel this way - and I am in my mid 40's, so maybe that has something to do with it?