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[Julie in Il]

Hi everyone! New here and would like to introduce myself. I am married and have four children, all girls, ages 4-18. I am a registered nurse but currently a SAHM. I have a question for all of you. My friends can't figure this out, so I thought maybe I could get some insight here. I have been interested in homeschooling for more than ten years. I've read several books on the subject and done some pretty serious research. I feel passionately about homeschooling my kids. My husband is opposed to it. I have committed this to prayer and feel I'm being led to homeschool. I have tried to shake it over the years and it just won't go away. My husband now says that if I homeschool, he will leave me. He is a proponent of public schools. Not that he is involved in the schools in any way, but a proponent, nonetheless. Well, any insight, advice, or comment? Thanks for listening.

[Cadam]

I don't think any schooling option is worth sacrificing your marriage. Your kids need a stable home. However, I am going to guess there are deeper issues at work here if he would threaten to leave you over a schooling choice. He is obviously not taking your opinion or leading from the Lord seriously. Is your dh committed to the same religion as you are?
Could this really have to do with something else?

[Elisabeth in IL]

It is hard to homeschool with no support and would even be harder if your spouse was opposed to it. I wouldn't recommend homeschooling in the situation that you described.

[Unicorn]

I think that fact that he threatened to leave, signifies a bigger issue. That aside, if you really want him to listen, you need to make sure he understands homeschooling. Ask him to do some research himself, and discuss it with you. Have him read WTM, and other books. He may have the impression that all homeschoolers are weird, religious, or some have other pre-concieved notions-kwim.

My bf doesn't get it AT ALL. I'm sure she thinks my dc aren't getting any kind of real education. She has no clue, maybe your dh doesn't either.

Good Luck, I hope things work out for you.

[Chris in VA]

It must be so hard, to feel lead by the Lord, yet not be able to act on it.
IMO, the best thing you can do is to work on your marriage. I,too, think it is a deeper issue.
Keep praying, and maybe stay involved with your kids' school as much as you can.

[Julie in Il]

Thanks, I agree with you. I have tried educating him about hs, but he just thinks ps is our civic duty or something. Its just so frustrating. I have been passionate about this for so long, I really feel strongly about it and he is being so impossible. I guess I thought maybe there was something I was overlooking. I do appreciate the replies, thanks!