PrairieAir
03-06-2008, 06:29 PM
The thread (http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=11413) about a stranger photographing someone's house has me wondering. I see a lot of interesting old farmhouses, barns, and other structures while I'm out and about. I'm very hesitant to take pictures of a house unless it looks like it's uninhabited. If the barn is too close to a house that looks like it's being lived in, I often won't photograph it either. In fact, I often chicken out even if no one is around and it appears no one may live there. I don't want to invade anyone's privacy, but I'm really tempted.
I would look for someone to ask, but I'm nervous about that, too. Our neighbor, a very nice woman in her 50s, once told us about someone pulling into their drive and to the back of the house. She grabbed her gun before going out to greet them. I understand why. She was home alone and she thought they might be poking around looking for trouble. After all, she didn't recognize the truck. It turns out they were there to inquire about one of her horses. Another neighbor, also a very nice guy, is a very private person and makes no secret of the fact that he will greet people with a gun in hand if he doesn't recognize who has pulled into his drive. MIL was looking for some information on some land near us and one of the neighbors told directed her to the owner's house. When the man answered the door, it was obvious he had a gun in the hand he held behind the door.
All that not to argue gun laws or the practices of my neighbors (because I really do understand), but to say I don't want to make anyone nervous by pulling into their drive and knocking on their door when they don't know me and aren't expecting it. There's also no telling what kind of person they might be or what kind of danger that could put me in. I don't know if I'd want to do that without dh with me, and he often is not.
So, what is the proper thing to do? What would most people appreciate? If it isn't apparent who the building belongs to, should I worry about seeking out the owner and asking permission? I know that whether someone asked first or just took photos of my house from the road I wouldn't mind too much. I like my privacy, but I would understand. In fact, we have had several people drive up and ask if they could see the inside of our house and one took pictures with our permission so they could get ideas for their own house. I think I would feel braver and better about the whole situation--and possibly not miss some great photos--if I knew what most people would expect and appreciate.
I would look for someone to ask, but I'm nervous about that, too. Our neighbor, a very nice woman in her 50s, once told us about someone pulling into their drive and to the back of the house. She grabbed her gun before going out to greet them. I understand why. She was home alone and she thought they might be poking around looking for trouble. After all, she didn't recognize the truck. It turns out they were there to inquire about one of her horses. Another neighbor, also a very nice guy, is a very private person and makes no secret of the fact that he will greet people with a gun in hand if he doesn't recognize who has pulled into his drive. MIL was looking for some information on some land near us and one of the neighbors told directed her to the owner's house. When the man answered the door, it was obvious he had a gun in the hand he held behind the door.
All that not to argue gun laws or the practices of my neighbors (because I really do understand), but to say I don't want to make anyone nervous by pulling into their drive and knocking on their door when they don't know me and aren't expecting it. There's also no telling what kind of person they might be or what kind of danger that could put me in. I don't know if I'd want to do that without dh with me, and he often is not.
So, what is the proper thing to do? What would most people appreciate? If it isn't apparent who the building belongs to, should I worry about seeking out the owner and asking permission? I know that whether someone asked first or just took photos of my house from the road I wouldn't mind too much. I like my privacy, but I would understand. In fact, we have had several people drive up and ask if they could see the inside of our house and one took pictures with our permission so they could get ideas for their own house. I think I would feel braver and better about the whole situation--and possibly not miss some great photos--if I knew what most people would expect and appreciate.